What does "being in relationship" mean to you? I was being in relationship twice. The first one is for 2 years. The second one is for 4 years. They always complained that I don't love them. I think ... it is because I didn't show that I care about them. Well... it's true that I didn't care about them. I have been well trained by my father to be independent while I was growing up. I cook for myself when I am hungry. I solve thing by myself when something happens. I go to find something that interest myself when I am bored. I take care of every housework even when I am sick. I don't know what need to be cared for an adult (= for my EXs). They live with their mom. They have been taken care almost everything by their mom. (They were 17~23 when I was with them.) They have games to play, they have friends to hang out. They still say that they are so lonely. They desperate love, from me. I feel so much stressed about it. I am not sure if I am not a good lover or just they are immature. My ideal relationship is free and relaxed, meeting 1~3 times a month, chatting when both are free, no need to take care each other like a mom. Am I asking too much? What is it like while you are being in relationship?