My grandmother. --2011.08.02

I called my parents on Skype yesterday and my grandmother wanted to talk to me. Truth be told, it was an unnatural conversation. Ever since I was little, my grandmother made it clear that she preferred boy over girls. She often ignored me as a child, leaving me deeply hurt.

Our relationship improved a little when I went to college but, it was still difficult to be sincere. Despite the pain my grandmother has caused, I recognize that she is my father's mother and I must respect her because she is the elder of the family. 

When I speak to her, she asks me if I like my job or if I have found a boyfriend yet. My grandmother refers to the company I work at as a factory. Being 70-years old, she has a more traditionalistic view of society. I don't expect her to understand the structure of the modern society so I don't correct her.

As an adult, I have made the conscious decision to forget the unpleasent memories of the past. Rather, I am choosing to get along with my grandmother. I tell her to take care of herself so she can come to my wedding in the future. I truly wish her to be happy and healthy.