Overcoming Weakness

One of my greatest weaknesses that I have been working on is expressing my ideas clearly when I am talking to friends or in discussions.

Over the years, I have been struggling with the pressure of speaking in public. I realized that one of the main reasons why I did not perform well in discussions is because I cannot order my ideas properly. As a result, I did not achieve smooth explanations. I found out that it was because a lot of ideas came to my mind at once, or worse sometimes I would have no ideas. Another reason that I found was that I could not find a way to explain what I was thinking, and I was afraid of what people would think of my point of view. In addition, sometimes I felt concerned about someone else saying the same thing I was going to talk about, and consequently, I would not have a relevant idea to add to the conversation or my ideas would go unnoticed.

To resolve this problem, I decided to talk to some friends who seem to have good control of the situation every time they explained their ideas. One friend advised me to be more confident and express my ideas without second thoughts, because they are not wrong or right even though you can agree or disagree with them, and that is what produces a good discussion. Another told me that I had to summarize my ideas and expressed them in a few minutes to no overload conversations with irrelevant information. I've been applying their advice and others for a couple of years, and I have become more self-confident when I talk.

You usually say that you go to see a movie at the cinema. Saying in the cinema is more in reference to being within in the building. For the most part they can be used interchangeably. For example, you can say "I spilt my popcorn at the cinema" or "I spilt my popcorn in the cinema" and they both sound fine.