marry with a foreigner
tell me about your thought about marry to a foreignner.
my mother holds the opposite view.
in my opinion,if you both love each other,you can get married.
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if you love each other, can communicate your thoughts and emotions Clearly, And are willing to put up with your cultural differences along with personal flaws, it can work out. i agree with everyone that communication issues can ruin everything, but relationships always have way more problems then just that.
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Love is never enough. You need to build a solid foundation on which to base your relationship. Physical attraction and/or emotional bonding alone can't sustain a relationship for a long time, and good memories won't save your relationship when shit hits the fan. What you need is intellectual compatibility, you need to like and trust each other. How is this accomplished? Through communication. So I agree with Jeff, you either become fluent in his language or find somebody who is fluent in Chinese.
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Marrying with A Foreigner
Please tell me about your thoughts about marrying to a foreignner. In my opinion, if you both love each other, you can get married but my mother holds the opposite view.
in my opinion,if you both love each other,you can get married.
In a way your mother is half right and half wrong. Let me rephrase the question in a different way and see how you feel about it. Here I am assumming that you are Chinese, speakes Chinese etc. If you are a university graduate. Would you want to marry an iliterate farmer even though he is as handsome as 潘安再世? If you said yes, see paragraph A. If you don't see paragraph B. Yes, I am a software Engineer. This is how I break my problems down. Find an example, break it down to smaller pieces and solve them.
PARAGRAPH A
My questions to you are...
What are the chances that you two have the common interest? Even if you do, how much is common interests are there. One or two won't be enough because you two are going through life together. His looks will not last forever. Your education does! I used to think like you... If you two love each other? Why should different levels of education get in the way. I was young and did not understand until I fell in love with someone whose education is very low compared to mine. Please bear with me.
There are soon plenty of problems surfacing... First... when I tell a joke, my beloved cannot understand the deep meaning so after awhile, I stopped telling jokes. At parties, a wall flower he/she had become because he/she (from now I just use he instead of the ugly he/she, his/her combination) knowing his level of education is no good and is afraid to say something wrong. Therefore he cannot be in elite situations (大塲面). Therefore being concern for him all the time, you won't have a good time yourself. So in the end, it is pointless to bring him along. How long can this last? When you two stop communicating, love soon dies. How long can his beauty last? After a few years at the most. However your knowledge and education endures. So in a nutshell, this marriage is not workable. To make it work, the other partner must bring his level of education up. This means he has to go to school etc. Would he want to undergo the process? If he does, then the marriage will have a good chance otherwise it is doomed from the beginning. Sex is a matchmaker. Communication is the glue that holds the bridge together. Without communication, even though having great sex is nothing. Sex last at most hour; give or take half hour. It may arrest the progress of doom but cannot forestall it forever. So with this in mind, marrying a foreigner is like marrying someone less educated than you are. This is because without having the command of the language, you are not fit to become even a waiter for that country. For example, my sister married to a French. Well, she spent 5 years living in Paris learning French by taking immersion classes. Even though she can speak and write French, it is not good enough. However they were lucky... The husband's English is good enough to work in the US. So they are now living in San Francisco. The decision to move to the US is because the French husband thinks that there is no good job prospect in France!
How many people are tenacious enough to go through this vigor? Not too many. Turn the table around and ask your hubby to live in China and learn Chinese. Unless his Chinese is good enough not only for daily life for work, as well, I say to you, kiss his ass goodbye. That is course the burden lie on you. To emigrate to his country and learn his language and customs well. So your mother is half right. That is, if you can surmount these problems. There is some truth in "bamboo doors match bamboo doors, wooden doors match wooden doors"1. 竹門對竹門,木門對木門.
1. For non-Chinese readers... Traditional chinese doors have double leaves. Therefore the two sides must match in looks using same materials.
PARAGRAPH B
Case closed. Your mother is right. Your reasons though may not be exact but are similar in nature; like a white cat or black cat. They both catch mice.
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