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Marriage Material

Several years ago, a girl claimed that she would not choose me for marriage since I am not a marriage material(1). We do like each other, but she ended up marrying another guy, and moved to Canada. Well it hurt a little, but not much, since I saw her more as a little sister than a girlfriend. This idea made me feel much better.

What makes a man or a woman a good marriage material? Or for directly thinking more to the point, what makes me a bad marriage material?
First of all and most importantly, I don't believe in marriage. What's the meaning of marriage, which remains mysterious to me(2). Furthermore, I think monogamy is anti-human against human nature(3). According to the loyalty of marriage, people must have sex with exclusively one person in the period of marriage, which is a huge horror to me. When making love becomes a routine to people, when no sparkles is in each other's eyes, what else is left in marriage? Responsibility? (Well, yes. That's pretty much the idea of the whole thing, really.)

Why are girls more fond of marriage than boys? Maybe not all of them, but at lease mine is. She is always asking whether I will marry her, when can I do it... which scares me very much. I don't want to lie, but I know there will definitely be a big fight after she learns the truth, that is I don't want to get married. Not never, at least for the recent several years(4). I really don't think marriage is something I must have when I hit some age, and it's not for parents better retirement life or their will fulfillment neither.

Soul mate is what I believe and will pursue in the future, which in my opinion, is beyond sex. That makes a marriage meaningful. However why is marriage needed between soul mates?

1. Normally, you are absolutely correct to put "a" before the word "material". In the case of the idiomatic expression "marriage material", however, there is no article. "A marriage material" and "the marriage material" are both incorrect when talking about a person.

2. I would suggest either "What's the meaning of marriage? It remains mysterious to me." or "The meaning of marriage remains mysterious to me."

3. "Anti-human" is not what you want here. Someone who wants to kill every human being on Earth is anti-human.

4. This is hard to understand because of the mistakes. You could mean "Not ever," which would emphasize that you don't want to ever get married, or "Not never," which would mean you might want to one day, but not currently.

You need to remember to reverse verb-subject order when asking a question. You make this mistake multiple times.