Being able to use 100 words properly. ~Healthy narcissist and Healthy pervert~

When you learn another language, one of the important and ineludible things is to memorize vocabulary (vocabularies is correct English, but is sounds a little Brittish to me. In American English we often say "Vocabulary" for multiple or singular). However, just because you know many words doesn't mean you can use them at will. I think it's because the words which are beneficial to you depend on the individual's purposes to learn it. Difficult and sophisticated words help your opinion to be convincing when you write papers or business reports. Simple and idiomatical expressions are useful when you talk with native speakers. I first learned English at school to pass the entrance exam, which taught us to mainly read and to only write a little. That's why I still have trouble in expressing myself vocally or in writing. One day a friend gave me some good advice: Being able to use 100 words properly is much more valuable than being to use 1000 words poorly. I think it's absolutely true. I'm still the latter, but what I have to prioritize now is not increasing my vocablary up to 10000 , but being able to flexibly use words I already know. To accomplish this, I need to write or speak something anyway.

Eventually languages should merely be a means to express yourself, so there is no way to speak in them unless you have topics to talk about and have fun with itself. Concerning this, a friend of mine has an interesting policy when he speaks in another language, it's "becoming a healthy narcissist and a healthy pervert. " 

According to him, first, "becoming a healthy narcissist" means that you don't care about making mistakes. Who could be perfect? Native speakers hardly care about mistakes you make and vice versa. Then as long as you don't care about them, nobody does. Think of yourself as just being awesome, since you speak a foreign language!

Second, "becoming healthy pervert" means that you openly talk about various topics including ones that are kinda hard to talk about. Every topic becomes an opportunity for you to use your flexible vocabulary. Of course, you shouldn't go further beyond being a "healthy" pervert.

It's bad to think too much about whether a thing is correct or wrong in your mind. You don't have to let it bother you. Just have fun with things you're doing. I guess it's easy to say and harder to do, but it's also true that nothing will start just by wishing. I'll try to become a healthy narcissist and a healthy pervert. Why don't you give it a shot, too?

It became longer than I expected. I'm happy you comment or correct it even partially. Thank you a lot for reading a that long entry!