Please be kind to correct me whenever and wherever there is anything in my writing which is ungrammatical, not idiomatic or in an unnatural style, namely if there is better expression, please be liberal to let me know.

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我想这种情形可能是两个方面的原因造成的。第一个原因是误会。你的表达可能还是不够清楚或者不够正确。饭店的老板感觉你的话冒犯了他，但是他没有发作。餐馆老板故意不理人的情形是很少的，因为他们想做生意。  如果这样的情形发生，肯定有特别的原因。但是几乎不可能是种族主义的原因，因为中国人心里可以说没有种族主义观念。

I suppose this situation may had been caused by two factors. The first was misunderstanding. Either the restaurant owner had misapprehended you or your expression had possibly been not very clear or correct.  The situation that a restaurant owner deliberately ignore a costumer is very unlikely, because he/she is running the restaurant and wants to make money. On the occurance of the accident, there must be some special reasons. Chances were that the restaurant owner had felt you were offensive, but she did not reason with you, nor burst out her anger. Racism was the last possibility for this incident, because there is almost none racial discrimination in Chinese mind.

另一个原因可能是文化差异的问题。不恰当或不礼貌的表达有时候是恼人的，要是在美国，感觉自己受到伤害的人马上就会发作（---- 不知道是不是这样？），但是中国人有时候采取隐忍的态度，表现一般是不予理睬。

The other matter may be the cultural gap. Improper or impolite expression can be irritating. Supposing it's in America, people who fell insulted will burst into anger [--- I'm not sure if it is the truth]; but in China, people would take the attitude of tolerence, and the representation in general is disregard. 【Show a good man his error, and he turns it to a virtue; but an ill, it doubles his fault.】

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在中国人之间，这种态度有时候可以避免矛盾激化，因为考虑到以后不太可能再出现这样的场合。因为许多人心胸狭窄，睚眦必报，喜欢在无聊的小事上纠缠。如果你得罪了他/她，他/她就会做出许多不道德的事情，不顾一切地报复你。很多人为了避免这种结果，往往采取隐忍的态度；

Among Chinese people this manner can avoid worsening the condition, considering this kind of occasion is not likely to arise again. And, there are narrow-minded people who are inclined to engage in useless trifles. If thinking himself/herself (even slightly) offended,  he/she would desperately commit immoral villainies to pay you. With a view to preventing such harm, people often take a tolerant attitude.

有的人受到冷遇以后会反省自己的言行，因而改变不当的行为；但是也有的人没有自知之明，喜欢要虚假的面。他们不知道人家的宽容，反而以为自己“胜利了”（阿Q的胜利), 变本加厉，结果是把关系搞得越来越糟。

Getting the cold shoulder, some people would reflect on their words and deeds, thus improve their conduct. Whereas there are people who have no discretion in their place incline to superficial triumph（Ah Q's spiritual victory). They have no idea and are thankless about others'  tolerance, instead, the go farther to aggravate the poor relationship.  BUT【Whoever rewards evil for good, evil shall not depart from him.】【Misfortune pursues the sinner, but prosperity is the reward of the righteous.】

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By the way, I think I have beein understanding you very well. What I am doing is just that I think I should do.