The choice illusion. Part 4

Do you remember what psychic functions are responsible for past-present-future? I have given the scheme a few times.

Future is air, mental plan, plan of consciousness and will. Present is water, emotional plan, plan of spontaneity (!) and energy.

Anyone who tries to rule the present, limits their spontaneity. They strain, think, doubt, hesitate, suffer, and, as a result, get less than they could. You should surrender to the stream of the present. Not thoughtlessly, but with minimum of resistance, with a straight back, but resiliently. Surfers and skiers can teach you. The present is a stream. It has already formed itself, don't struggle with it using your mind. With your body - yes, you can try to bounce a little, as a game. When you spar with your fate it's better to use aikido, not boxing. You should use the stream to strengthen your maneuver instead of bumping it like a punching bag. It's much stronger that you, you are just an individual, and it is a DOOM, a FATE.

You are a creator of your own fate when we are speaking about future. No matter that you act at random, blindly, that you write with your rear paw and don't really understand much about it, but you will learn how to do it better if you turn your mind there instead of fighting the present.

Remember the examples. You can't choose clothes for today because you have in your wardrobe only two dresses that match the weather, but one of them is too tight. But you can choose something to wear tomorrow (or in a month). You can take care of your body shape and choose clothes for the next season.

You can't change your occupation right now, you can get only one job opportunity of all that you'd like. But you can learn something today and tomorrow the list will broaden. Even more, you can't really choose today what to learn, the list of opportunities (and willingness) are limited, but when you learned something new, the list would broaden a little, you have changed a bit, after all.

Regarding the wife… You can't really choose her today. She is what she is, or she doesn't exist at all. But tomorrow your wife can become better. Today you can do something that reduces default and your wife will be more friendly, warmer, more flirty. If you are single, you can choose a path of changes today and tomorrow the changes will give you new opportunities.