Sorts of Truth Truth, Untruth and Anti-Truth

A time to ask for help “In the past I didn’t know how to ask for help because a thought it was going to picture me as a one who had failed in life completely. Thus it would uncover my complete weakness. Now I can admit it and ask for help.” “Is it possible to ask for help before you feel like you’ve ruined your life?” “I didn’t think about this way…”.

Shame (feel free to suggest any corrections) This text is a voluntary translation of the text written by Ilya Latipov. Shame is the most difficult and hardly bearable feeling. Sometimes we want to avoid facing shame so eagerly. Finding out that we are ashamed often pushes as to the idea that it’s forbidden to be embarrassed, confused and awkward. A confident person with normal self-esteem and healthy mindset has no reason to be in ashamed under any circumstances. That idea pushes a person to the feeling of shame for being in shame. The feeling becomes stronger when discovered by someone else. The truth is that it’s just natural. It’s natural human condition – to be confused and awkward, frozen in shame, feel isolated, silly, feel like don’t belong the others. It’s not bad, not good. But it’s natural and inevitable. It’s natural to feel ashamed and embarrassed when fail in some public activity (presentation, lecture, concert, etc.). It leads to the urgent natural need to disguise the shame and embarrassment. It happens often when the ashamed person lacks support from other people and has no inner strength. It’s natural to uncover the shame in front of others even when the reason for the shame seems insignificant and negligible. The feeling of shame doesn’t uncover human silliness. It says that some one is urgently lucking presence of some one else who can help to accept human fragility and weakness.

A camel and a way. A camel was asked to choose between going uphill and downhill. “Can’t I choose a horizontal way?”, the camel replied.

What is Self? There is a wide range of different concepts describing the mining of the word “self” or “me/I” or “myself”. The one I like most is a theory that describes “self” as a sum of the next three things: - doings – the things someone is doing; - people – the people someone is communicating with; - thoughts – the things someone is thinking about.

Why do we love sometimes things from the past? A short parable has a hint to the explanation. A man was asked to tell about the period of his life he likes most. “When J. Stalin was the ruler of the USSR” – the men replied immediately. “Because I was young and loved by women” – he added then.