The person here will most likely suffer trauma, PTSD. From Wikipedia PTSD: Symptoms may include disturbing thoughts, feelings, or dreams related to the events, mental or physical distress to trauma-related cues. In this case, the sentence "for things to be the same/normal" means that any event may trigger or remind this person of this traumatic event and she will no longer live a comfortable life. The sentence "Where was she without me for this to even be possible?" is grammatically correct, it sounds like a book quote. Where was she = it means something happened to her somewhere. Without me for this to even be possible?= The other person was unable to do anything about it . This could have been a negative or positive situation and thus requires more context.