let put your question into some situations with difference circumstances. if you love one girl you should say what you mean and mean what you say, but in case you love some girls in the same time, i don't know how can you say what do you mean and mean what you say....?^.^ you are a strong believer in the maxim "say what you mean and mean what you say" but have you ever thought that in some cases if you say what you mean and mean what you say, you will make someone (your closest people) feel be hurt? i read "the audacity of hope" of Barack Omaba. and he wrote when he was young he didn't obey what his grandfather said but some year laters when he'll be adult he changed the way of thought ...he followed and did well what his grandfather even sometimes what his grandfather said wasnot right with what he think. And finally he realized that he made his grandfather feel be respected and happy. He said that when you be an adult with mature thinking you will sometimes and some cases you shouldnot say what you mean and mean what you say.... i don't think if in all case you say what you mean and mean what you say is better. i think we should be flexible because the life is plenty of colors and so complicated.

i think that the life is not easy but i've found out from here many meaning things...so i'll try to keep smile upon my face but i don't know i can keep it in all cases or not? i'm not sure by myselfe...

don't worry so much Yancey...^.^
If you want to learn Vietnamese, there are many good teachers here....and i want to say that learning Vietnamamse is not very hard as you think.....:)

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