Part 7: Explanatory Essay(Don't make my words a reason to flame... it's is only my opinion.Thanks!) The leader is also used as a face for the project because it’s more comfortable to know who is behind an opinion and who is responsible for it. Gradually the title of leader gives fame but also death-threats from who have all the reasons to keep the situation as it is. Examples of leaders include Nelson Mandela, all the Prophets, our King and his lineage. Those examples are all people that defended and developed their ideas while receiving death threats all day long. An example a leader’s philosophy is also found in the extract of Tagore Fruit Gathering, a poem I read while studying another text titled On the Fear of Death written by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross used a part of the introduction which says: “Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers but to be fearless in facing them. Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain but for the heart to conquer it. Let me not look for allies in life’s battlefield but on my own strength. Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved but hope for the patience to win my freedom. Grant me that I may not be a coward, feeling your mercy in my success alone; but let me find the grasp of your hand in my failure.” (Kubler-Ross, Page 479) This poem reveals how much a leader prey to not fall down to the organizer’s category and leads all their effort to nothingness. A leader is a person who chooses to sort out of the ranks and abandon his/her own nest completely. He/she chooses to build a new one not to fit him/her only but to create a new freedom to the rest of the population. For this effort to be fruitful, he/she need to fight the roots of the fundamental of the population’s rulers who can be among the most recalcitrant of nest-seekers, followers, or even organizers.

Part 6: Explanatory Essay(Don't make my words a reason to flame... it's is only my opinion.Thanks!) During “le siècle de la renaissance” many organizers were persecuted for their desire to adapt the world to the lower caste by teaching them how to read and how to think by themselves and not believe what the entire Noble and Clergy caste said. Eventually, exceptions exist and this is the reason why, to make their goal possible, the organizers of this period established spokesmen to make their intentions understandable to the lower caste and in this way, people understood and adopted the new changes in the hierarchy. The last category of comfort-zone breakers were an outcome of the organizers. They are spokesmen or more commonly called the leaders. A leader is a manager who has the skills and the responsibility to take care of his/her people which are constituted of organizers, followers, and even those (Nest-seekers) who don’t know about him yet or don’t participate to the development of the project. The leader wishes to make the voice of the followers and the organizers reach the ones whom are still not belonging to either comfort-zone breakers categories, so their main goal is to reach people heart by communicating with the world. A leader knows what is good to the population and does his/her best to serve in altruism so he/she can provide a real shelter bereft of the hypocrisy and mental judgment of the rest of the world. The leader gives the example, so everything he/she says needs to be shown in his actions. A funny story recites the travel of a woman with her teen to visit The Dalai Lama. When he asked her what she wanted from him, she said she wanted her son to stop eating sugar. The Dalai Lama reflected a few minutes before asking her to return to see him in a month. The woman was shocked and upset but she did as he said and returned to seek him again a month later. The Dalai Lama remembered her so he directly took the son in his arms and said to the youngster “Don’t eat anymore sugar my son; it’s bad for your teeth” the woman was astonished by the simplicity of the words so she asked why he did not do that last time they came and the Dalai Lama replied “Well… I used to eat sugar a month ago.” The leader needs also to know how to get his words understood and that the communication and his opinions goes through each person’s mind as a self reflection. He/she knows we are all different, but he/she wants to explain how a person’s difference is normal and how not being able to fit in a box isn’t a synonym to society failure.

Part 5: Explanatory Essay(Don't make my words a reason to flame... it's is only my opinion.Thanks!) Thanks to the fact that most women saw themselves in the shape of Amina, they reacted as quickly and persistent as they did. Another issue such as the lack of drinkable water among African, South American, or Indian tribes would not make so much impact even if it is as needed of being defended as a woman who was victim of sexual harassment. The third category of what we will see is no longer related to comfort-zone occupiers but to comfort-zone breakers. They are the organizers. An organizer is someone who spent enough time working on a project to know the advantages and disadvantages to it and how to make to best of it. An organizer is the type of person working in the shadow for answers to the essential worldwide questions such as what do we need? How do we overcome an obstacle? What can benefit everyone? What are the issues? What can be done? Who can be against it? How to make people agree to it?... He/she is a scientist, an engineer, a lawyer, a doctor, a physician, an astronaut, but before everything else a person who makes the well-being of the Earth and its hosts a priority. He/she is well informed, smart, and well educated. He/she does extreme research and wishfully hopes one day to be able to answer the primordial questions. That’s the reason why an organizer took a specialized professional career that is healthily helpful to the world rather than being a trader or an accountant. An organizer uses nearly poetry to describe how passionate he/she is about the subject. He/she has beliefs and knows that the majority wouldn’t agree with him/her. An organizer is almost always acting out of self interest for the social interest which explains the reason why he/she involves him/herself, unlikely to the followers. Organizers are great in what they do but they lack in communication skills with the outside world. Outside of his/her domain of knowledge, the organizers aren’t fit to share confidently their ideas most of the time. He/she is dedicated to the goal which may lead them to sacrifice their own family if there was a hope of success behind the hard work. Early centuries ago, writers who have had a vision of how (which is our present) would be the future were laughed at and cast out because of their immoral ideas and their way of judging their previous acts to leading to a bad future.

Part 5: Explanatory Essay(Don't make my words a reason to flame... it's is only my opinion.Thanks!) Perhaps, being a follower happens once in a life-time or never. It could be a long or a short-term action to defend against disforestation in the Amazonia or to support Ethiopian children through the band One Direction. Nevertheless, often it has an end or even never sees the light of it. The follower experiences the need to be a volunteer for an idea because of an injustice like racial discrimination or support the opinion of an actor about a religion. Still, he/she may not completely agree on the opinion he/she supports but does like that actor which exceptionally is a reason enough. The followers don’t know what they want and don’t make a full study of what they are supportive of. It could be a good or a bad opinion such as the political part of the “Front National” with Jean-Marie Le-Pen –very much hatred for his racial opinion, words, and behaviors. The majority of the members of this category want only to have a valuable reason to live, to put the blame on something external, to overcome boredom, to search for a future career, to build up an identity, to feel useful, or to support those around them. Some followers choose to follow a leader due to what they defend because they know someone else doing it such as a family member, a professor, a mentor, a friend, or maybe he/she knows someone who died or experiences harsh time because of it or the lack of it. An example of the follower could be one of the many persons who supported Amina Fillali. Amina Fillali was a country girl who committed suicide after being abused and married to her violator. This once-unknown girl became in one day a symbol to nearly all the girls and women not only in Morocco but all over the world. The reason is that women have always suffered from gender inequality; every one of them was able to see herself in the place of the victim. This cultural, economic, media and political inequality is shared all over the world even in the most developed countries which are induced into an explosion of protests when an event such as the suicide of Amina Fillali falls out like a nuclear bomb to all the women is attempts to adapt to a society that believes women are natively physically and emotionally weaker than men. In addition, Amina Fillali became a symbol for hope and change for women in society.

Part 3: Explanatory Essay(Don't make my words a reason to flame... it's is only my opinion.Thanks!3 A rich nest-builder could see workers struggling with their salary and the way they’ll have to be on diet to be able to nourish their families and will just say that “we need of every level of statute to make a world”. A middle class nest-builder will see the same struggling families and will say that they should have studied and thought about contraception before making that many children. I once met on the train a real estate agent working in an agency in the US. He was a mature man in his forties with a working wife, and successful children. He came alone to Morocco for five days because he wanted to relax somewhere in Africa where there is neither internal nor external war and it is pretty cheap to be able to choose a luxurious place to stay in. He talked to me about any and everything that came through his mind. From the diversified culture in New York to the global warming, he talked about nearly everything and defended his ideas as no one can do. His last words to me were “We count on the future generation to make a move and change the world for the better.” Shockingly I asked him why he didn’t begin the future generation’s work by himself first; he simply responded “I am too old for that.” Although his answer is a little unbelievable coming from a man who succeeded in life, he was tied to the nest-seekers’ mentality. Most of the older population don’t take part in social actions but prefer to prove their humanity by giving $5 once in a while to a charity they deemed important enough to invest in. The second category of comfort zone-occupier is the follower. A Follower is a volunteer who supports actively an –already existing-- idea, an opinion, or a point of view by voting, protesting, boycotting, making a peaceful walk, or just commenting about it on internet to achieve a goal which is to make his/her voice heard to the one he/she follows. A follower is a social adventurer, a rebellious teenager, or a path-seeking new-adult not entirely hooked up by the pressure of responsibility of school, work, social life, the community, or his/her own nest (parents, spouse, or children,) because the follower is still free and doesn’t have someone pushing him/her to abort what he/she sees as a revolt against the society.

Part 2: Explanatory Essay(Don't make my words a reason to flame... it's is only my opinion.Thanks!) A Nest-Seeker is by definition someone who is always looking for a way to achieve comfort and security in his/her life. A nest is a place that provides a person with what he/she sees as the best place he could find as where to live. It is a cocoon which offers a person the belief that it is the most comfy and secure place he/she could occupy. A nest-seeker is a grown up person who has some responsibility (family, work, social life…). However, a nest-seeker has no alertness on giving an opportunity such as a restful place to live to someone else who’s logically needier than he/she because that person sees him/herself as pitiable as the other one. When the comfy place is in him/her possession, he/she will try to get it comfier and securer because a nest-seeker is always in need. Unreasonably, a nest-seeker has never had to suffer from long term homelessness or joblessness without having someone else able to support him/her during those dire moments. He/she speaks for himself first and then listens to others to see if they can match his/her level of comfort, security, and mostly happiness. If the protagonist in front of the nest-seeker has in any way succeeded in something the nest seeker hasn’t, he/she will feel again the need to push his/her happy comfort-zone to another level. A nest-seeker can feel pity or sympathy for a minute in front of the TV news; he/she may even go and search about the problem encountered by the victims of whatsoever just to be updated about the issues in the world and be able to communicate with friends and colleagues and share their opinion but not to help by any manner. Sometimes, he/she can even share knowledge about how much the world we live in is unequal and how much it has always been like this and that is the reason why he/she thinks the rest of the world should accept reality and not fight anymore about it; However, he/she wouldn’t say that if the issue involved him/her directly. A nest-seeker doesn’t feel the need to be self-sacrificing because it will have a direct impact on his/her beloved life-time perspiration-built nest. Such kind of person exists everywhere; from the middle class to the high class they practically share the same opinion. No matter the class level, the nest-builders all think that they have already too much to think to take care of anymore problems that don’t involve them closely.

Part 1: Explanatory Essay(Don't make my words a reason to flame... it's is only my opinion.Thanks!) Don’t You Know Comfort-Zone Breakers Are Those Who Seek a Nest? Inequality and disunity between people are the main issues of this world, where globalization promotes open gates to the limited natural resources for the rich countries and neglects the rest of the continents. People who take the dilemma in hand and genuinely care about a true and fair social interest can be counted on the fingers of one hand. Meanwhile, the other majority of the population thrives all the way through the discrimination among the human race without feeling guilty for the present and/or future generations. It’s utterly impossible to say that humans don’t share compassion or don’t feel the need to help one another, but each and every person has a different level of empathy which divides his/her interest into two types: self-interest – working for one’s own advantage – and social interest – working for a bigger scale benefit which doesn’t primarily involve one’s own interest. We as human have the inner habit to think of ourselves first then the remaining small part of our brain will make us -- from time to time during the day -- think of others. It’s a natural tendency that can be explained by our primitive desire to survive first and grow our lives to a better and more comfortable situation. To achieve our goal, we need to have a root to which we can attach ourselves and if we don’t have one, we will try and create it. This statement typically shows the family as the root which is important for building an identity and be able to fit in the society, and after family come possessions that will help us to grow and enlarge our comfort and security in society. After those goals are achieved, a last step remains which is the inner wish to keep family and possessions forever. Each and everyone have achieved these goals or are in their way to do so. Due to this fact, the world population finds themselves –for now-- stuck in one of those goals. There are four categories of comfort-zone occupiers and those one are known as the Nest-Seekers.

Marriage Nowadays : a good or a sad Story

Hi Italkiers !

I'm kind of involved in a really interesting group research about what are the changes in how we think about the marriage yesterday and today.
What’s different? and what are the similarities? Does everyone define the marriage the same way ? is it the purpose of life ? is it just a reason to procreate ?
Were you married once ? twice ? more? was it a marriage for love or for convenience ? did you enjoy being married what were the most common issues ? were you ready for it? did you felt like losing you freedom by choosing to marry your other half?

Thank you for joining this discussion and hope we will benefit one another by our replies !