Just move out if possible. Far away, if possible. I had an over-caring grandma. For me moving to another town to study made me finally and completely independent.

Hello. You may say that you are fully independent when: 1) You live far away from her 2) You don't borrow money from her 3) You don't need her to care after your children when you are going to the cinema 4) You don't need her to feed your cat while you're abroad 5) ..... and so on... The life is like the spider's web of dependencies... ;-) And now to be more serious: When I moved out from my parents' house, got married, became a father... and we earned enough money to buy the separate flat for my mother-in-law ;-) Good luck :-)

The best way is to become more independent. When I moved out of my mother's house I was free to make my own decisions and no longer subject to her influence.