Ok. I understand your problem. Well, the best way(according to me) to learn particles is by learning grammar that you can use particles with. Normally people starts with は which is the subject marker. Ex: わたしはソフィアです。My name is Sofia. Do you have a good book to use? Like "Genki" or "Japanese for buisness people"? If you do not have a book, I can send you a good basic beginner Japanese textbook that covers the basics of grammar(including particles) through skype. This page is also extremely helpful for learning Japanese sentence structure. http://www.guidetojapanese.org/learn/grammar Hope this helps you ^^ :D

Honestly I find books and articles over-complicate the particles simple because they explain what the particles can be substituted for in term of English connectives, rather then the Japanese way of thinking about them. Here's a quick run-down of the main ones you need to know and how I choose to think of them: は: Subject- Who/what the sentence applies to. が: Topic- What the sentence is about. に: Target- About 95% of the time you can think of what this is marking as a target of some sort. The other 5% is to turn a noun into an adverb. か: Marks a question. を: Application (or object): Who/what the action of the verb was applied to. の: Relationship- Shows that two things are related or linked in some way. と: And/quote- Essentially an "and" between nouns, and even between sentences in some cases. Also quotes phrases for verbs that take phrases. で: Context- Basically a means/method/location. Essentially used to provide context or extra information to a sentence.

Try reading this: http://users.tmok.com/~tumble/qadgtj.html Very well described Japanese sentence structure and use of particles.

Language book is really important, because it helps you not to waste your time searching for the information of "how", "where", "what" to use in the sentence and etc. As far as I know, many teachers in different countries including Japan prefer "Minna no Nihongo" book. So try this :)