That is a very complex question. I don't think there is one thing that everyone wants except a very general "to be happy". The problem is that, what makes us happy changes as the years go by. So, finding what makes us happy becomes a life long endeavor. What makes one enjoy life is when they learn to appreciate the search. Because if one expects that they could be happy at every moment of their life, they will only become frustrated.

There are many answers to this question. I personally wouldn't stick to religion, but tackle the more mundane problems of your daily routines. My recommendation is to meditate on when life felt good for you. What happened, when life was good? What did you do, when life was good? Make a list - not about what makes you suffer, but about the times you enjoyed life! You wrote, that you lost balance. Do you mean, that you lost control over your actions? Do you feel stuck in your habits? Do you do things, you later regret? Do you feel, that you should stop and change your routines? In this case make a list: Write down, what kinds of behaviours you would like to keep, what kinds of behaviours you would like to change and how you would like them to change! Once you got an overview about where you are and where you want to go, make a plan! But don't be too hard on yourself! Chance is hard and takes time. It's a long way, which has to be gone step by step. My experience is, that keeping my body healthy helps me a lot to feel good. Try to get into a healthy life style: Go to sleep early, get up early, eat three meals a day, eat healthy food (mostly plants, fresh and unprocessed), take a walk every day, exercise at least once per week! Once you got this, proceed with your social life. What kind of person would you like to become for your friends and your family. What are the things you have to do to become that person? Start! But don't be in a rush - approach it step by step! That's more a less a condensed version of how I got/get myself into balance, when I lost it. I hope, these lines are of some help to you!

Do you pray? Are you a religious person? Asking God is what makes all the difference. He will tell you what to do every step of the way. I know that firsthand, I was lost for many reasons and when I turned to Him completely , He made it possible for me to find the job I wanted, to marry a wonderful man, to have two wonderful children, and now He's still counseling me for my future, which is changing all the time

Be childish~ be silly~ be serious~ be grownup~ be happy~ be sad~ feel every emotion as is it, reach for new emotions~ experience and have every expression~ have laugh at failures, have some melancholy sorrow~ joke about grand stuff, have importance of little things~ love what you already have~ surprise yourself of how beautiful life is~ ^^~