The Terror of a “No” Yesterday, I watched a psychology video about “No”, and here blow is the suggestions from psychologist. We all have something to ask for, a hug, a kiss, a job…… But we rarely ask for them. I have heard serval friends that they had fallen in love with a girl or a boy when they were at high schools or universities, because of the fear of rejection, they had lost the chance of having a good relationship or a life partner. We all would rather die in penury ignored and unfulfilled than ever heard a word” No”. We are not feared of rejection, we are feared to be considered “disgusting”. We all have access to a “disgusting” self-image, a repertoire all the most broken, flawed, embarrassing and weak side of who we are. And precisely this self-image is awoken and engaged whenever people say “No” to us. When people say “No “to us, we don’t hear “No”, we heard that “You are arrogant, jumped-up, delusional, clumsy, repulsive pond life.” No wonder that we don’t want to heard it. But in truth, people are not remotely saying this to us. People say “No “to us, it is because of our request doesn’t fit in their plans, that is nothing to do with us and nothing harmful to us. Everyone thinks about themselves, we don’t think about other’s feelings very often. We need to pursue our dreams and ask for what we want in our lives, and never be fearful of a “No” and worried about to be rejected.