responsibility or love? today i took a bus to visit my parents. i did not pay attention how much battery my phone left before i went out, because i thought i could have charge my phone on the bus anyway. however, there was no plugs in that bus and my phone is dying. the thing was i need to call my mom when and where to pick me up. with other choices, i tried to talk to the woman next to me and hoped she was willing to let me use her phone for a call. fortunately, she was super nice. actually she asked me if i need some help after she saw me desperately looking for the plugs. i told her about my dying phone and need a call. without hesitation, she borrowed her phone to me and said if i need to make a call later just asked her again. how lucky i was to meet this nice and warm woman! afterwards, we started making a conversation. we chatted about the daily life, career and family..etc. and she talked about an incident happened to her which was occupied my mind for a long time. here it was: five years ago, she was 37 years old with a ten months old daughter. Her husband had a stoke during a meeting in his company. luckily, he was sent to a hospital within 30 mins since the hospital only few miles away from his company. he was survived after intense rescues. however, the left side of his body was total paralyzed and the right side was limited movements. he stayed in hospital nearly for a year. the surgeries, follow-up examines and recurrent infections made both of them suffer and exhausted. he was depressed from the radical change. he could not deal with his daily basics. he needed a 24/7 helper to take care of him. she had to take care of the baby, earn money for all the expense and give her husband both physical and mental supports. however, he was too frustrated to do the rehabilitation exercise regularly in the golden timing..... i could not imagine how she went through all of this. she was one of the most brave women i have met.