fake it before you become it Have you had experiences that you wanted to re- do a thing or you wished you could have done it better? Imagine you have a important presentation which will define who you will be in the future in 30 minutes, you might feel anxious, breathless and try to be confident and passionate but you can not help keep think about the questions the audience might have and how terrible would be if you fail it. I just start reading a book called "presence bring your boldest self to your biggest challenges". I have many similar experiences which were embarrassing and humiliating. for example during the interview, my brain was frozen and stuck with afraid of being declined. I was there. I did not put my energy in listen or observe what the interview's questions and reactions. I was an imposer. I was not "present". and after the interview, I got regretted and I should have said.... i should have noticed... but it was too late and time will not be come again. I will not have no the second chance. in some dates, I also learn the same lessons. I did not pay attention what he said and what his interest was. only thing i thought about was how to put my hands. i knew it brought the failure but i was worried of being refusing or unattractive too much. The only thing you should do is "to be present". enjoy the moment and the process. be confident and passionate. not worry about the consequence. fake it before you become it! (the book is amazing!)