Why many Chinese overseas don't like to join the local parties I just watched a video in which an Italian girl comments that if Chinese students don't like to join the local groups and just hang out

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Why many Chinese overseas don't like to join the local parties I just watched a video in which an Italian girl comments that if Chinese students don't like to join the local groups and just hang out with other Chinese, what is the meaning for they to study abroad? I think that's the common issue for most Chinese students overseas like me. Some of them even got worse for their English after two years' study as they just group with other Chinese. From my point of view, the reasons might be that the gap between the cultures is big. Chinese students just share no common interest with the local students. Chinese students don't like parties while local dislike singing KTV. You may comment that Chinese students should adopt the local life as romance' do. My experience is I did join in some societies like Christian, Rockclimbing and English learning groups. However, none of them perfectly work for me because neither can I make myself believe in Christan after half year nor talk to others while climbing rocks. The English groups were full of Chinese at the end. I do have motivation and interest in proving English and learn the different culture, but I am also an introverted people and shy of grouping with others. I can't change my personality for this as other suggested and don't want to give up learning. I have to explore a new way which fits my personality.

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Why many Chinese overseas don't like to join the local parties

I just watched a video in which an Italian girl comments that if Chinese students don't like to join the local groups and just hang out with other Chinese, what is the meaning for they to study abroad?

I think that's the common issue for most Chinese students overseas like me. Some of them even got worse for their English after two years' study as they just group with other Chinese.

From my point of view, the reasons might be that the gap between the cultures is big. Chinese students just share no common interest with the local students. Chinese students don't like parties while local dislike singing KTV. You may comment that Chinese students should adopt the local life as romance' (Romans - i.e. people from Rome) do. My experience is I did join in some societies like Christian, Rockclimbing and English learning groups. However, none of them perfectly work for me because neither can I make myself believe in Christan (Christianity) after half year nor talk to others while climbing rocks. The English groups were full of Chinese at the end.

I do have motivation and interest in proving (improving my) English and learn the different culture, but I am also an introverted people person and shy of grouping with others. I can't change my personality for this as other suggested and don't want to give up learning.
I have to explore a new way which fits my personality.

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I wasn't sure if your text was for correction or for discussion (or both!), as your English is already great. Just made a few touch-ups above.

About the topic, while I am not Chinese, I have noticed a similar trend while studying abroad, with Chinese tending to group together (though the same could be said of certain other nationalities like Spanish people!). In my case however, their grouping wasn't to the exclusion of others and other "foreigners" were welcome in their activities and on their Wechat group (!).

I don't think you necessarily need to party to meet other people if that's not your thing. Joining groups was a good first step, but of course you need to find something where you have an interest in common. Why not take small steps in smaller groups, for example inviting someone over for a Chinese meal -- and who knows, maybe that person will invite you for a meal from his or her country!

Why many Chinese overseas don't like to join the local parties

I just watched a video in which an Italian girl comments that if Chinese students don't like to join the local groups and just hang out with other Chinese, what is the purpose of/reason for studying meaning for they to study abroad?

I think that's the a common issue for most Chinese students overseas like including me. Some of them even got worse in for their English after two years' study as they just grouped with other Chinese.

From my point of view, the reasons might be that the gap between the cultural gap is big. Chinese students just share no common interest with the local students. Chinese students don't like parties while locals dislike singing KTV/Karaoke. You may comment reply that Chinese students should adopt the local life as romance' do (when in Rome..., 入乡随俗). My experience is I did join in some societies like Christian groups, Rockclimbing and English learning study groups. However, none of them work perfectly work for me because neither can I can neither make myself believe in Christianity after half year nor talk to others while climbing rocks. The English groups were full of Chinese at the end.

I do have motivation and interest in improving English and learning the different culture, but I am also an introverted person people and shy of grouping with/amongst others. I can't change my personality for this as other suggested and don't want to give up learning.
I have to explore a new way which fits my personality.

Thanks for your comment, Latifah. Does the 'grunts‘ mean the nature of a person? My way to start off is to pay for the native speakers to talk with me. I think to hire an English teacher is a sustainable and effective way to have my speaking improving constantly even I am living in an English speaking country. I have many experience and stories to share and the tutor would not feel bored like just purely teaching to a child. By the way, wish you a happy life in Shanghai. I am sure you will have more unforgettable memories than foggy air, and the local people and students will love you even you just speak English.

I agree, They should take time to understand that each person comes for their own personal reason and some do not always follow the "popular trends" I am a very extroverted person. I am personally very open, loud and like telling jokes. However, my best friends are very introverted and depend on me understanding their "grunts" as to normal people who speak. and it is very easy. So, maybe as a way to start off, I recommend others approach with a more humble method and that is to ask Guangwu, about himself and then! find common ground. :)

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