How to make conversation?
I think my writing English is better than before. But when I try to speak English, my brain become white. I want to say something, but I can say only "yes"or " I know." just few words. Then, our conversation will be finished. After conversation, I always feel " I should have said more words." But I can't. I can write long sentence but I can't say long sentence. It is my problem. I want to solve that. There are not so many chance to speak English. I can't catch any chances.
The other day, someone my friend talked to me, " I talked about you with my friend, she knows about you." I wanted to say, " Oh really? She knows about me?" It is easy to say. But I said " You know me?" I made mistake and I couldn't say correct sentence.I always made mistake and I was embarassed of myself.
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How to start a conversation?
I think my written English has become better than before. But when I try to speak English, my mind becomes blank. I want to say something, but I can say only "yes"or " I know." Just few words. After that, our conversation will be finished. After conversation, I always feel ," I should have said more words." But I can't. I can write long sentences but I can't speak long sentences. It is my problem. I want to solve that. There are not so many chances to speak English. I can't even catch the chances which become available to me.The other day, one of my friends said to me, " I talked about you with my friend, she knows about you." I wanted to say, " Oh really? She knows about me?" It is easy to say. But I said " You know me?" I made a mistake and I couldn't say the correct sentence.I always make mistakes and I become embarassed with myself.0
Thank you so much your comments!!!!!! I made mistake today as well. But I don't care because I always make mistake. I hope my English will be better than yesterday. Thank you so much. When I read your comments, I feel better. I keep trying and I don't afraid of making mistakes. Thank you so much.
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This is a barrier that all students must break through at some point. First of all, don't be embarassed: you are a foreign speaker, you didn't get ten years of spouting relative nonsense at your parents while they corrected you for free as native speakers did. Making mistakes and speaking in short, simple phrases is fine.
Secondly, only speaking practice can help with this problem. Get a talking partner who has a comparable language of your own language. Better yet, get a teacher and pay them. This way there is nothing to be worried about: their job is to help you get better. And talk.
Usually it takes around 40-50 hours of speaking practice to wear down the block completely but most of your trouble with complex sentences should disappear after a dozen hours or so.
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I think your embarrassment is causing shyness.
Partly you just need more practice, but also change how you think after the conversation.
If you think to yourself "Oh it's so embarrassing. I feel so stupid. I can't speak", and things like that, you will reinforce, or 'teach' your brain that you can't do these things, and you will feel more restricted and shy the next time.
After the conversation, even if it went badly, try to think neutral or positive thoughts.
For example, if you think "Even if it went badly, it's no big deal. I won't even remember this conversation a year from now. It''s probably a bigger deal to me than to anyone else. I am successful because I tried, and all I can do is keep trying and keep doing my best". Or anything similar, you will gradually become more relaxed and comfortable.
So yeah, practice more, but also change your thoughts. Don't tell yourself "I always make mistakes", tell yourself "I am trying my best, and that's all I can do".
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