The Clear Intention

Sometimes when you want to get something, you have to have not just a wish to have it, but a firm intention. I mean here it's about being determined to just go and take what you want without thinking about "what i should do", "how to do it right", "what if this will be unconvenient for someone or someone whose help I need" and so on.

For instance, I have this little story. Maya and Ann were good friends. But in one fine moment Ann just disappeared, didn't call Maya, didn't write her, didn't answer her calls, but answered on sms which Maya sometimes sent Ann, just "I'm ok. You?" "I am ok too" - Maya answered and then their dialog was finishing. After more than a year since they were last talking, Ann called Maya and said: "Oh hi, i haven't seen you for ages! How are you? Are you free today? Or tomorrow? I need to see you urgently! Tomorrow? Ok, I will come to you! I need you to help me study for my English quiz, I know you know English well, you were in America last year! I'm sure you will help me!" Maya has agreed to help. Ann came to her with questions for the quiz, they were engaged in studying English for 1,5 hours, then they were talking and drinking tea for around 15 minutes and Ann said "Thank you! You bailed me out, i'm sorry but I have a lot of exams now, so I must go, but I will call you in 2-3 weeks! I have to go! Bye!" Maya told me about it 3 months later and of course Ann has disappeared again. Maya even didn't being angry or offended, she was just very surprised.

I had one case. Once I was riding on the bus. I was sitting and listening to music. One woman came into the bus, came up to me and said: "Give me a place, girl!" I was so stunned that I just gave her my place. I should say she didn't appear to be old or sick. I would say she felt much better than me:) And I wouldn't say that I never argue and am always ready to give in to everyone. My behavior suprised me. Afterwards I just stood up, confused, and I said, "what just happened here?""

Someone can say it's just insolence, but here is what the difference is between simple insolence and a clear intention. In the first case people can get angry with you because of such behavior, and they can start to dislike  you. In the second case people don't get angry at once or later, they just surprised and stunned. But person with a clear intention just easy get what he wants.

There are some people who do everything this way (like Ann who became a director of a chain of restaurants when she was just 22). Others learn it because of their upbringing.

Clear Intention -- this works okay here, or firm purpose, clear goal, firm intention, definite plan

Ana will have a good chance at success in business. If she behaves that way at home with family, there will likely be significant problems.