skychess的小作文: Apr 15, 2010 Picking up women Picking up women Some guys who decided to picking up women only because the lady who looks at beauty, and what is more they reveal their thoughts and feelings too soon even they know nothing about this stranger. First of all, we have to understand why it is an important step about how to select our intimate. You have to make your mind what you want. When began an intimate friendship you have to consider if you are matching each other. No matter how trivial little things, as long as related to her, all must be emphasized. When you have selected your object then you have to consider how to get her attention first. I will provide some observations below for your reference: When you are chatting with a woman who owned the similarities between two of you, she will be immediately in the mood of exaltation to ease the binding expression, and the conversation will show intimacy. Man also feels intimacy when they found someone who has some affair in common with him, but among women, this will be particularly significant. Women are sensitive to form the fate of. If you and she have the similar point in common, she will feel mysterious that among you and she with the same similarity. So you need to stress the identical and likenesses between you and her. When women chat with a man, they are always appreciating the elegance of the man rather than the content of conversation. Women mostly based on vague, general impression judgments to a man rather than a detailed analysis. For example, women rarely describe the man’s figure or say the man’s eyes are big, and with a wide forehead. They rather say “good guy “, “gentle kind person” “attitude of enthusiasm”, ” cheerful, “” honest “… … and so on…. This is the perception a woman to a man. Some guys thought that they can’t make an eloquence speech and have nothing to say when he gets along with a woman, and they think that this is the reason that he is unable to attract women’s attention. However, this is a wrong thought because even though you can begin from talk about your work or expertise, despite the lack of understanding of the content of your conversation, the women would appreciate your open style, and then accept your words, or even re-evaluate you. Here is a case about myself: I have a school mate she told me, that although I can’t understand your abstruse theory, but you are so charming when your speech, if you think you cannot speak, do not be discouraged. Women only care about your style, rather than pay attention to your content. Let two people have a common goal and purpose will increase her desire to communicate with you. This trick is commonly used in many Communication experts. This phenomenon is common in many companies, such as bosses and secretaries, two people have to face the outside world events, and some extramarital affairs are happened in this situation. We can imagine if now you and your classmates together have the same problem for the same time. Isn’t this would make each other closer? Similarly, if you have the opportunity to be able to solve the problem together with her, and the idea of solving the problem can be the same or on her side, isn’t it certainly can immediately narrow the gap between you and she.! The same principle, if you have done something wrong, or if you have a secret which nobody knows this can also let her know that kind of thing. Of course you have to make it as only she shared the secret. This will be also very easy to narrow the distance between both of you. Otherwise, two of you have breached the same social rules at the same time which nobody knows will have the same effect. When we make a conversation with women, we must pay attention not to repeat some statements made taboo, for women are easily being implied. Men occasionally unconsciously repeat the statement which Women would be very concerned about it. For example, if you always talking about how rough someone else’s skin is, and then they well feel that you care about their rough skin. She mistakenly thought that you dislike her rough skin too, when you start to contacts with a woman you should pay attention about this point.