<em>For every Woman, please answer these questions honestly!
1-How do u look to men ?
2-What does the man mean to u ?
3-How would u like your man to look like ?
4-How would u treat your man ?
5-How would u like ur man to treat u ?
6-Is it important to u to be always (most of the time) around ur man ?
7-How can u get sure that your man loves u ?</em>
of course men r allowed to comment too <img src="/FCKeditor/editor/images/smiley/msn/angel_smile.gif" alt="" />
<em>The Gardener Parable</em><o:p></o:p>
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" Two people return to their long-neglected garden & find among the weeds a few of the old plants surprisingly vigorous.
One says to the other "It must be that a gardener has been
coming & doing something about these plants." <o:p></o:p>
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Upon inquiry they find that no neighbor has ever seen anyone at work in their garden.
The first man says to the other: "He must
have worked while people slept."
The other says, "No, someone would have heard him & besides, anybody who cared about the plants would have kept down these weeds."
The first man says, "Look at the way these are arranged. There
is purpose & a feeling for beauty here. I believe that someone comes,
someone invisible to moral eyes. I believe that the more carefully we look the
more we shall find confirmation of this."
They examine the garden ever so carefully <o:p></o:p>
& sometimes they come on new things suggesting that a gardener comes <o:p></o:p>
& sometimes they come on new things suggesting the contrary
& even a malicious person has been at work. <o:p></o:p>
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Besides examining the garden carefully <o:p></o:p>
they also study what happens to gardens left without attention. <o:p></o:p>
Each learns all the other learns about this and about the garden.
Consequently, when after all this, one says: "I still believe a gardener comes"
while the other says "I don't"
Their different words now reflect <o:p></o:p>
no difference as to what they have found in the garden,<o:p></o:p>
no difference as to what they would find in the garden if they looked further
& no difference about how fast untended gardens fall into disorder.<o:p></o:p>
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At this stage , in this context, <o:p></o:p>
the gardener hypothesis has ceased to be experimental,<o:p></o:p>
the difference between one who accepts & one who rejects it <o:p></o:p>
is not now a matter of the one expecting
something the other does not expect. <o:p></o:p>
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What is the difference between them?<o:p></o:p>
The one says, " A gardener comes unseen &
unheard. He is manifested only in his works with which we are all familiar," <o:p></o:p>
the other says "There is no gardener" <o:p></o:p>
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<em>and with this difference in what they say about the gardener </em><o:p></o:p>
<em>goes a difference in how they feel towards the garden,</em><o:p></o:p>
<em>in spit of the fact that neither expects anything of it which the </em><o:p></o:p>
<em>other does not expect. </em><em>"</em><o:p></o:p>
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