A Misunderstanding Yesterday, i chatted with a friend who's from America. I assume that it was very late in America, so i asked " Shouldn't it be very late? and you still up?" he replied"what, are you my mom?" Then I thought i might say something inappropriate. Acutally i just wanted to ask why you were not sleeping or what you were doing in the middle of night. Is that kind of question really an inappropriate or offensive one? Did i let him feel that i violated his privacy? Because in China, this "still up?" kind of question is commonly used as greetings when people go on a talk in the middle of night. If it is, i guess that is where the differences exist

do you think two diffrent people would make it? i am going on a distant-relationship with my boyfriend. and my boyfriend and i have been through a lot recently. We've been together for almost five years, and i've never doubted if i love him or not in tha past five years. But things went different as time went by. I found that there are so many differences between us. I like reading and kinda academic, while he doesn't care about his grades. i like English while he has no ideal of English. i hate smoking but that's what he likes most, and he is not willing to stop even for me. sometimes i even don't think we are at the same world. I admit that he is definetely not the perfect person as a boyfriend in my mind, so i am always trying to change him into that person. i know that is not right but i can't stop it. i've tried everything but i really can't. and that's why i doubted if i love him or not. i think i am just loving to change him into another people who is totally not him but perfectly meet my requirements. last night he came to see me and i enjoyed that feeling staying with him.omg, what is wrong with me!!! i really want to figure this out. if i loved him why would i want to change him into another person? if i didn't love him, why would i enjoy staying with him?