Lovers I want to share how to find a solo mate .in the past,I was always to be attract by some men who are very softly,chary,considerate.but when we fall in love,I found that's not true love.I just want to find some guys who take care of me.so I used a long time to think about this problem and I really want to know what is the important between the lovers. I also read some books about sexual relations.than I found the answer why I always need a softly man to love me.because I didn't get enough attention and love from my parents when I was a child.in fact,this is my own problem,I should solve it myself .its wrong to hope find a man who can care me and who can give me enough patient and love .because no body can do this for the whole life .I also found a little boring to fall in love with such man.so I try to use some ways to make my heart to grow up.and then I found I don't love the man who is just softly anymore .now I think the most important between the lovers is something else.