To listen and to hear Has this ever happened to you, that in a conversation with a friend, lover, family or co-worker, you kind of listen to him, but at the same moment you are somewhere else but not here, thinking about: “Where did he buy those shoes?”, “What’s the Euro exchange rate for today?” or “What do I want for dinner tonight?”. This affect I call “the waves crash” or “the seagull squawking”. I should admit that it also happened with me. And every time when I caught myself thinking that I wasn’t in a conversation I scolded myself for it. And it’s not because the conversation is absolutely not meaningful,(sometimes this is the main reason), but it’s important not only listen to each over, but also to hear and to understand what the person with whom you are talking to wants to convey to you. And sometimes we can’t hear our beloved and frequently it is the main reason of our quarrels and misunderstanding . Why is this happening to us? Because we are too wrapped up with our troubles and problems. So, how to solve this issue? Stop focusing on youself!