They all mean the same thing essentially,but there are subtle differences. She steered........ In this context there is more decisive intervention by the host. In other words the host was more direct and purposeful with her guests. She guided.......Here "guided" is less direct and more of an assistance or help. She directed ....... This can be construed as an order given. Maybe the host is in a higher position of authority than the guests She took....... This is more neutral and more commonly used.

Steered, Guided and Took all have the same meaning which is the guests followed her to the dining room. So she was in the front and they followed her. Whereas directed her guests mean that she told them or gestured them to where the dining room is and they went themselves.

Of course, they are similar as these are synonyms. “Took” is the most neutral—it means she brought them there, with no editorial information. “Guided” suggests they were going of their will, but she helped them. “Directed” can mean a command, like she is their boss, or offered instructions, maybe she was running a seminar. Finally, “steered” is similar to “guided”, but suggests a more aggressive effort and agenda on her part. She really wanted to influence them in one way.

Of course, they are similar as these are synonyms. “Took” is the most neutral—it means she brought them there, with no editorial information. “Guided” suggests they were going of their will, but she helped them. “Directed” can mean a command, like she is their boss, or offered instructions, maybe she was running a seminar. Finally, “steered” is similar to “guided”, but suggests a more aggressive effort and agenda on her part. She really wanted to influence them in one way.