all her patience is correct and the only one to use. all = the whole extent whole = undamaged, or "all of something , a week, a day, a meal, an holiday etc" . But not things like effort, patience, etc. That is why "whole of her patience" sounds wrong and unnatural. "it took all my strength to move that rock" "it took the whole week to move that rock" I hope the two sentences help. From reading the two dictionary definitions it does sound like they should be interchangeable; but we definitely use them differently in normal natural speech.

"All" is correct. Edit: But for the latter I believe you could change the word order to say "Her whole patience immediately disappeared." 4. Whole can be used after a possessive adjective, however, all must be used before a possessive adjective. My whole day (Her whole patience) / all my day (All her patience) Source: https://www.grammarbank.com/all-vs-whole.html