Emotionally I could fall in love with a lot older person but I have strong rational side which would probably convince me to cool those feelings. Love doesn't know age... but human body knows aging. I wouldn't even start serious relationship with person who would be 20 years older than me. Lets see if I would be single and I would fell in love with 43-years-old man. He might want to have kids... but I don't want kids until I'm at least 28. So when I would have my first kid he would be 50+ and when my kids would be 10-15 he would be 60-70-years-old... I want to have active father for my kids... and he might be already quite infirm in that age and from there we get into another reason. I don't want father my kids who looks more like grandfather... When he would be 60... I would be just 40... I don't want to end up into being home nurse at the age of 40-50 for my husband... as extra to being mother. Yeah some people survive really healthy to old age... but many don't and even if they would be physically firm they might get dementia. I don't want to play with high probability. Plus the most important reason... I would intend to be with him until the death us apart and I wouldn't like that day to come anytime soon. If I would marry much older person that day might come a lot sooner. I want to have someone with me to rant about the good ol' days when I'm old... I don't want to spend my old days as lonely widow and I want my grandchildren to have grandfather not just some picture in the photo album.

If you love somebody who have a big age-gap with you, I think it would be OK since everything in love would not be a matter. But it is another thing if you want to get marry with such a person. In China it is a traditional saying "each three years creat a gap between generations"(三年一代沟). Marrage is not only love, it's more then love. You should live with that person... then you would find you two are in totally different way of thinking, you have different live habits,different demand, different aesthetic...All this would be a big gap lay between you and that person. If you ask for me, it is not a good idea.

I saw a movie called Harold and Maude that tells a story of an 19 years old boy that fell in love for an 79 years old women, and i think it was beautifull. The age doesn't matter if both can be attracted one on the other.

Maybe you should see a movie which called “sorry if i love you".This tells us a man who is too much older than the girl.They met in a traffic accident when the girl was 17 years old. Then ,they fell in love... Ok,so I think if it belongs to you ,that is yours. Nothing is seperated from this lover.

Opposites attract, and two people who are of very different age certainly differ in lots of other aspects as well. Those relationships can often seem to be especially intense, because the younger partner is fascinated by the charisma and the maturity of the older one, whilst the older is motivated to keep up with the younger one in every respect and therefore invests a lot to stay in best shape - physically and mentally. I have seen 60-70-year-olds wearing short shorts or driving a Porsche Cabrio ,so sometimes it can be a rather desperate striving for youth. Some older ladies can't move a single facial muscle any more because of too much botox. In most of the cases, the situation causes some stress for the older partner from a certain point on: What if he or she leaves me because she or he thinks I'm too old for him or her? Or if he or she gets bored or we cannot make up our differing expectations? Let's say a 20-year-old woman lives together with a 45-year-old man: will they have the same ideas about their roles in partnership, as parents, as individuals? And what about differing interests? While she is just about to start a carreer, to have fun with friends, travel and find out everything she wants about the world, he is maybe at the point where he wants to slow down a bit, have a family, settle down? I suppose all this takes a lot of talking and mutual respect and understanding for their love to work. If you can see the film ' Elegy' starring Penelope Cruz, it is about the question you have posted.