Hello Jillian, You have to start then by questioning "Do I really love him?" or maybe it is just wishful thinking. Why would you start loving that person in the first place ? It has to be mutual ,you have to feel something reciprocal .Maybe you have mistaken him being kind and nice for loving you. How did you find out he doesn't love you ? Why do you think you love him in the first place? You need to be very honest with your self ,someone could be manipulating your feelings ,pulling you in by his charms to fool around ?!? If you found out that ,would you still be "loving him"? Is it a feeling from one side ? You feel attracted while he doesn't ,it could happen ,but then you can't blame the other person. It is your unrealistic idea, a picture you formed that might be a little bigger than what is really happening. It would be a bit difficult to face it then, but at least you know the guy has nothing to do with it. In all cases you have to deal with your own emotions ,that could range from magnification of a situation to being oversensitive. Crying might be a stress relief ,if this reduces your tension ,but it won't make you feel better on the long run. You have to face it and feed yourself with positive affirmations ," I am a big girl now " " I can handle it " " He wasn't that worth anyways" etc .. If you feel down it would be because his rejection might cause you to : - loose self confidence. - feel inadequate for relations with the opposite sex. - feel disappointed that your big picture of a happy love relation was smashed. You see ,you have yourself to deal with . Good luck:)

One method I've seen used: 1) Spend one to two weeks maximum in denial 2) Finally admit that they don't love you. 3) Get drunk one evening. 4) Move on. If you are female (and even male) you can substitute having a good cry in number 3. If you do choose to get drunk, don't drive. (I make this sound easy, but I know that it is not - nor is it funny for the person going through it) One thing I can recommend against - don't put all your energies into finding someone else to love as fast as possible. In the U.S., the slang term is "being on the bounce". It is a vulnerable time and relationships that start this way almost always turn out bad.

guys all what you said was true. Admit it to your self so you will feel fine, its truely that "truth hurts" well i guess i'll go to nice place where i can meet people and have a drink to forget a while...

stephen stills, from the former band CSN&Y composed a song called "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you are with". in love affairs no advise is helpful. I like very much all explanations above. as you see, "as many heads, as many hats" (catalan proverb), got it?

unselfishly, I would rather let her go if that's what will truly make her happy. In a love relationship (pre-marriage), the partner must prove to themselves how true their love is. if in this period only one of you shows the meaning of love, do you think you will have a happy married-life in the future? or should I say, will your marriage lasts? I tend not to do the 'crossing the bridge when I get there' idea. If I see things won't work out despite of doing greeverything just to save the relationship, I'll give it up - no martyrdom necessary!