she wouldn't have misunderstood me or she wouldn't have been misunderstood?
About two weeks ago, I was talking to my girlfriend who lives in Germany, and we hadn't had a video call for one week. So, I told her that I was going to call her at 4.00 pm the next day, but when I called her the following day, she didn't answer, and I was busy as a bee on that day. Then, she returned my call in two hours, and when I answered the phone, I explained that I didn't have enough time to talk to her, and I added that I couldn't have a video call, but she suddenly got upset out of nowhere, and she asked me not to take that tone with her. It was a serious misunderstanding and resulted in a fight which escalated. I think that I shouldn't have taken that tone with her, so she wouldn't have misunderstood me(or she wouldn't have been misunderstood)

Thanks in advance.

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she wouldn't have misunderstood me or she wouldn't have been misunderstood?
About two weeks ago, I was talking to my girlfriend who lives in Germany, and we hadn't had a video call for one week. So, I told her that I was going to call her at 4.00 pm the next day, but when I called her the following day, she didn't answer, and I was busy as a bee on that day. Then, she returned my call in two hours, and when I answered the phone, I explained that I didn't have enough time to talk to her, and I added that I couldn't have a video call, but she suddenly got upset out of nowhere, and she asked me not to take that tone with her. It was a serious misunderstanding and resulted in a fight which escalated. I think that I shouldn't have taken that tone with her, so she wouldn't have misunderstood me(or she wouldn't have been misunderstood)

Thanks in advance.

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To me it is "she wouldn't have misunderstood me "
"she wouldn't have been misunderstood"
 is passive form, which in this case says that you missunderstood her.

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She wouldn't have misunderstood me.

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Thanks for leaving a comment. So, the right answer basically is "She wouldn't have misunderstood me", right?

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Also she was not misunderstood, because you immediately knew that your tone was an issue. The only person that seemed to have been misunderstood was you in this case, buddy! Because you were the person that meant to say/ explain something and got misunderstood in the process. I hope this helps and that you were able to square it all out afterwards.

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I don't think this was a case of misunderstanding. If so, she misunderstood the time of the call. Which apparently was 2 hours prior to her response. The fact that you could not talk or connect with her in a video conference is what upset her. How your tone may have come across telling her "no" (twice) in one phone call is also open for interpretation. She misunderstood you if you feel like you have done nothing wrong and yet she was upset for no reason with your excuse and/or tone. I hope this helps!

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