A friend gave me a book that reminded him of me called The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World with Kindness by Linda Kaplan Thaler. The basic premiss is that if we are nice to others, they will be nice to others, and so on. Since it's such a dog-eat-dog world, kindness is a rarity. I'm the type of person who my professor says performs "random acts of kindness." My belief is that we can all succeed with a "kill with kindness" attitude without being a doormat. Wouldn't you agree?

It's the title of a Dale Carnegie self improvement book (circa 1936) and later his seminars. Yes I have read the book and taken the seminar. Example: Six ways to make people like you 1. Become genuinely interested in other people. 2. Smile. 3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. 4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. 5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests. 6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Maybe u can read Dale Carneige's books as Derrick stated but I'm not sure if his strategies are the perfect ones. So the best strategy is just being yourself not Messi :)

I think there is no recipe and rules. People are not the castle you have to win. And to influence means to make them to do somethimg without their will...But a friendship is impossible without a comment agree. There is a proverb - behave as you want people to behave towards you. Just be honest and maybe you'll find a friend. :)

Make your question more concrete. Do you want to find friends or how can we win friends? Maybe, in lottery.