Sadly, love hurts! If the other person wants to be friends as well then be patient, or you could take a chance (risk?) and let that person know how you feel. It is perhaps not the Chinese way but use small words like (I like being with you , do you think we can see each other more often? ) instead of (I love/adore you, I can't live without you!) that could scare the person off. another way is for one of your friends who knows one of his friends could say that you have an interest. coming from someone they trust may have that person look at you in a different way. if not, then move on - it is too painful and potentially dangerous for you ( and perhaps the other person) if this "crush" turns into an obsession (kunrao) and believe me it could. Turn to your dear friends for support, do other activities, take a short break from dating, then find someone new (or let yourself be found).

Give it time, stay friends with the one (for as long as you can take it), and then focus on a real boyfriend once you find him.

Buy them a fruitbasket?