Asking for Her Hand
Hi there =)
After quite a long break I made it back in the forum and will probably be able to stay for some longer time in here =).

However, I wanna make a proposal to my sweetheart who is Japanese. She knows it and after I asked her she agreed that it was nice if I would ask her dad for permission - or is blessing better? What do you think is better for traditional Japanese people (her parents agree to be together with me for the future)?

And in what words shall I do that? Now since I've finished studying French I am able to start doing Japanese because of being together with her and of course also being interested in the Japanese culture and language. Could you give me a hint? I will do it in a few months so there remains still some time to prepare some more kind of speaking skills. (I do already speak a little and can write/pronounce Hiragana and Katakana but until now I simply haven't had time for studying more.

I would be really greateful for some useful answer =)I do not want to look up on the Internet since I want to be sure and not on "good luck" =)
Also I do not want to ask my girlfriend - do not need to explain that I guess =)

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Asking for Her Hand
Hi there =)
After quite a long break I made it back in the forum and will probably be able to stay for some longer time in here =).

However, I wanna make a proposal to my sweetheart who is Japanese. She knows it and after I asked her she agreed that it was nice if I would ask her dad for permission - or is blessing better? What do you think is better for traditional Japanese people (her parents agree to be together with me for the future)?

And in what words shall I do that? Now since I've finished studying French I am able to start doing Japanese because of being together with her and of course also being interested in the Japanese culture and language. Could you give me a hint? I will do it in a few months so there remains still some time to prepare some more kind of speaking skills. (I do already speak a little and can write/pronounce Hiragana and Katakana but until now I simply haven't had time for studying more.

I would be really greateful for some useful answer =)I do not want to look up on the Internet since I want to be sure and not on "good luck" =)
Also I do not want to ask my girlfriend - do not need to explain that I guess =)

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Asking her dad for a permission is important in Japan. If I'm making proposal, I might ask her dad before proposal, without telling her about it. But I think you can tell her dad after proposal too. Have you met her dad before? Do you know him well?

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i think, when it comes as how would you ask for her dad's permission, is to use whatever knowledge you have in their language, at least, he would see that you are doing your best to study their language and that you really want to talk in a fluent (not really that fluent yet, because you are still on the process), instead of trying out a very very formal phrases which sometimes is hard to understand and memorize. Sorry, if this one didnt help a lot ^^" uhmm, i've been with japanese people before but I still have a lot more to learn too. Sometimes also, before a man asks permission to his partner's dad  there is this tea ceremony thingy that a man should join the parents or perhaps that would be after they gave their permission. hehe ^^"

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What a beautiful question! I'm impressed. I really hope that you get great answers to find the best way. (Anyway, sorry for not being able to answer to you for my English.)

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Thanks for your advice - but it's a language/culture forum here and my question is not about getting any relationship or personal advice.

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Don't rush it.

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