No, I don't think so. It sounds more logical to say, "No matter what I tried, I couldn't make her love me." But, to put it the other way, like you said, I never heard of a person say, I'm going to try to love her." The way I look at it, if a person decides to love someone, they simply do. Also, the fact that love comes from God, if that person is the right one for whoever (within His will), then God will give the love needed for that person. Does this help you?

"No matter what I tried, I couldn't make myself love her." You have to use 'myself' because it is the object of your action. Similar to himself, herself, themselves, they are called reflexive pronouns and they are always the objects of a sentence and never the subject.

I have to agree with Tom. I think you mean, "No matter what I tried, I couldn't make her love me." I have never heard that phrase spoken as you originally wrote it. If you, indeed, intended it as you originally wrote it, then Kimchi is correct!

yes it is correct.. (waiting for a pro answer =]) I would say like "no matter how hard I tried...." just because it sounds more dramatic lol