about SEX and about myself
Recently,specifically is the whole summer holiday i am watching "SEX AND THE CITY",consequencely,a question haunting ne for a long time,i.e."why those actors and actresses can give their kiss or make love with unfamiliar person even really don't kown who are they?"I don't know,if I,oh Jeez,i can't thinking.Sometime I want to be one of them,and be an American not Chinese,this kind of desires sound strange,but in the bottom of my heart I want to go abroad ,Chinese is too shy,they can't convey their ideas influencely,like "Wanna me out?"than's a simply question,YES or NO question,but ,but they cannot answer clearly,even though they say YES in their mind hundred and thousand times.Oh,one more question,why in the series each of them wearing like model,a fishionor,totally,ordinary American too?
P.S.I want to study abroad,but i want an economic plan,who can help me ?

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about SEX and about myself
Recently,specifically is the whole summer holiday i am watching "SEX AND THE CITY",consequencely,a question haunting ne for a long time,i.e."why those actors and actresses can give their kiss or make love with unfamiliar person even really don't kown who are they?"I don't know,if I,oh Jeez,i can't thinking.Sometime I want to be one of them,and be an American not Chinese,this kind of desires sound strange,but in the bottom of my heart I want to go abroad ,Chinese is too shy,they can't convey their ideas influencely,like "Wanna me out?"than's a simply question,YES or NO question,but ,but they cannot answer clearly,even though they say YES in their mind hundred and thousand times.Oh,one more question,why in the series each of them wearing like model,a fishionor,totally,ordinary American too?
P.S.I want to study abroad,but i want an economic plan,who can help me ?

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hi cindy! i am foreign medicine student in china! i can understand your problem!

if you go to some other country then you have to adapt culture of that country! there is a saying "when in rome, do as romans do"! yet the culture of your home country flows in your blood! so it is hard to adapt! 

and yes the america showed in "sex and the city" is not real america! it just one side of america and america has many sides! still many americans live with cultural things in mind! so every american is not like it is is showed in "sex and the city"! 

so dont worry and be specific and clear about what do you want and what you dont want! you can say clearly "no" to the question "Wanna me out?" 

and yes i request you to preserve your own culture, what ever it is! respect your own culture! dont let it be over comed by other cultures!

best of luck for your future!

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What you have seen "SEX AND THE CITY" is about the US culture. Either side can initiate the offer as long as the other side doesn't refused. When a man ask the woman for a date, it is an offer, if the woman go out with him, it is an acceptance by act. Otherwise, the woman will not go out with him alone. Sex, they don't have to be boyfriend or girl friends relationship, they call it friends with benefit. 

If you are finding a friend in helping you to study abroad. You could find an older person to be friends with benefit. So, he would not tie you down for marriage. The younger people would not have the financial strength to support you, the younger people are doing it for physical release, they are not for money. If you are not a liberal woman, perhaps your family isn't, don't do it. Because, you still have to deal with friends and your family menbers too.

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Hello Cindy,
I can understand sometimes frustrations, you are probably young and beautiful and you have plenty of time to organise your studies...
The main thing here is to wonder whether to study aboard...
If you want to improve your english it is without doubt the best way to travel to an english country... but no rush and plan your trip !
good luck !

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