sometime why the humen think to end his/her life when passing through crises
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This may seem odd. But I have experienced this type of warped thinking in my lifetime already. Growing up, I received straight A+ marks (highest honors), throughout all of high school, college and graduate studies. Everyone was excited about this! "Did you know that Erik gets straight A+ marks? He has NEVER gotten anything lower! Isn't that amazing!" And they meant to be kind. But inside, I started to believe that my value WAS in getting only A+ marks. Once, in high school, I got a 96% on a homework. Once. That is only an A -- not an A+. My stomach felt nauseated for two weeks. I felt ashamed. I hid in my room after school. I felt like a complete FAILURE.
Imagine this kind of thinking throughout a lifetime -- where a person really believes they ONLY have value "because of" ... [???]. This can really make people feel there is no point to live, if that status is gone.
My advice for anyone in these shoes?
MOST things in life do work themselves out. Studies say that 80% of what we worry about never happens.
Find SOMEONE to whom you can tell EVERYTHING -- holding nothing back -- even if it is a counselor. Talk to this person often.
Never place your self-value in any one thing. Find your self-value in something that doesn't change, like, "No one else in history will every see the world the way that I do, so I'm important!"
And for everyone -- think carefully about saying unkind things, of holding grudges, or ignoring the "odd girl" at work. Take time often to smile and speak something encouraging and personal to people. Make it a GOAL to point out something wonderful about someone each day, to thank someone, to tell them how much you appreciate them. Sometimes, it makes a world of difference.
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I have dealt with many suicidal people, both personally and in a professional setting (I worked in the ward of a psychiatric hospital especially for teens in this sort of crisis). Here is what I've found...
1. For many people, they really don't want to die. They just don't know how to LIVE. They look at a problem and, as Jura said, they don't see any good outcomes. But not knowing how to LIVE is much different from wanting to die.
2. Often, when people are hurt by others (family, friends, a lover, schoolmates, a boss or co-workers, etc.), people develop "magical thinking". They imagine the scene of their own death or funeral, in great detail. They imagine everyone who will come to the funeral. They imagine that these people will say nice things about them, or will wish they had not said unkind things in life. It makes people feel better to "hear" people say these things, even if it is imaginary. Over time, as others continue to be unkind, to ignore, or to be unappreciative of this person, the fantasy of dying becomes more "magical" and attractive. But AGAIN -- this is not wanting to die; it is wanting kind treatment or love from others.
3. We often wonder why a billionaire might take his own life during a financial crisis -- even when he still has HUNDREDS OF MILLIONS of dollars. Many times, people wrap their whole sense of value and self-worth into one thing. For instance, they may think something like this:
"I am important and worth something to people because I have over a billion dollars."
"I am important and worth something to people because I am beautiful."
"I am important and worth something to people because I have a job where they need me."
When this ONE thing becomes THE ONLY thing people feel their value in, they lose hope when this thing is gone (or seems to be gone) -- they are no longer a billionaire, they are scarred in an accident, they lost the banking job, etc.
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i call those people a coward..cause they can't face the problem and ending their life is the best solution to their problem..what ashamed as talk to some people who have that kind of problem i always say heyy!!your not the only one who got a problem..i am always saying "Never give up to battle that you try to handle" well if they want to do that we cannot stop them as if thats what they believed...
"live in faith'
cowboy..
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Your question should read, " Why do humans sometimes think of ending their life when going through a crisis?"
My answer is that they may not have anyone to talk to about their problems or feel ashamed of losing face with their family or friends[ eg gambling or drug problems]They feel so depressed that they can see no way out. I always advise people to see their doctor first who is trained to assess their patients' mental state.
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