there is a book called 'radical honesty by Dr. Blanton' and there are some followers of his reasoning behind his book. if people totally share what they think and feel without concerning themselves even with socially acceptable white lies, they get to have so-called 'genuine relationship' with people who can 'bear' the radical honest. but in short periods of meeting many people with different backgrounds, there are not many people who are concerned, generous and open enough to accept and stand the total truths from others, regardless of whether they are from eastern or western societies. you will find the culture of saving face in western societies in a different way than in asian ones. as you can see, the words 'mind games' you have used exist in the concept of the english culture, too. sometimes, what it is comes before why it is so. there are many people who feel emotional distresses caused by the straight forward manners of communication. i think it's better to improve the ability to discern those who are like you and those who aren't. and you can apply your principle liniently to those different from you. then you can have your types more close to you and get to know and learn more from other types of people.

firstly , thank u for sharing this question with me, glad to this ,then ,secondly , may be they can't manner or mode of expression about what they feel , but any way , this kind of people isn't fullgrown to face this life..,and may be they r n't sincere with themselves ., i think that they suffer to contradiction with themselves and with the others.., may be it's akind of arrogance , but they don't confident of themselves nor someone in any way :(

Well, language – both written and spoken – is the main faking art, so it's completely based on the difference between style, content, aim, message and truth: it's naturally for it not to be sincere. Sincere communication means are usually more direct (expression, gesture, glance, etc.). However, as a writer, I don't think this is so unsuitable. If you just think well, you'll see all human art is based on invention, and that's because of the human wish of nonexistent things and their continuous hard work to invent them. Obviously there are some contexts where true language is preferred: «I'm going shopping this evening, what do we need for dinner?» You better not answer «meat» if you have 3 kilos of beef in the fridge and no bread or vegetables... ;P Here's the difference between art and necessity: Oscar Wilde said all art is quite useless, and he was right – if art was influenced by necessity, it could not be free (actually many artists suffering from hunger, through all times, had to create only things others paid them for, and this's a serious limitation). Let people fake with language, try you too... it's natural! Just be careful about the situation you're in. :D

Well sometimes I think it's better to create an opaque aura around yourself as to protect yourself from certain social factors, to maintain appearances, because no matter how much we try to deny and combat this phenomenon, we live in a society based on appearances and once they are shattered one might get hurt in a way or another. Regarding the mind games you mentioned, i consider them to be a really subtle way of testing how much someone care for you. You should ask yourself what would happen if they were like an opened book and expressed freely all their feelings and thoughts. You can regard such games as the so called white lies. To a certain extent they are very similar with the only difference white lies are meant to avoid an unpleasant situation, whereas pretending the opposite of what you really think is a form of self-defense.

Oh, it's easy! You've mentioned "mind games", exactly! To play is more interesting, than just say smth directly. Playing, you may wait for unexpected reactions, you may check smb. Isn't it attractive?