it s depend on your society customs and reasons , love is love , but maybe secret will hurt

I think it is more complex and difficult then it seems.. Well for one the term "secret love" can mean various things such as "having a secret relationship, loving a friend yet keeping it a secret,being married, yet still in love with someone else... I think that the process of falling in love with someone is hard enough, falling out of it is near impossible... So for those that are "secretly in love" i wish them all the best and whether it is a secret from your parents, friends, or even sprouse, thats its never left unrequited!

Most of these lead to hurt & unhappiness.

Secret love .. You mean somethinkg like illicit love affair ?! Whatever you mean , something immoral or illegal can not be understood . That is a conscience and an order to keep . The important thing is a 'right' relationship that is based on sound and pure motive , not 'secret ' . If someone is hurt due to one's feeling or behavior , that can not be something good any more even though it is 'love' .