By telling "ought to" you suggest someone what is one of the last options one has or something that one can't easily avoid, for example, any longer. By telling "should" you suggest someone that something is good to be done or something that after all is meaningful. You ought to tell her how you feel. You can't avoid telling her how you fell You should tell her how you feel. It is better or the best to tell her how you feel ‘Should’ and ‘ought to’ are basically the same, although ‘should’ is much more widely used than ‘ought to’. The negative and interrogative forms of ‘ought to’ are becoming increasingly rare. Both ‘should’ and ‘ought to’ are used to talk about obligation and duty and to give advice. One way of getting the meaning of ‘should’ across to learners is to contrast its meaning with that of ‘must’ and ‘have to’ as the degree of obligation is considerably less, e.g. ‘I have to go to the doctor’ as compared to ‘I should go to the doctor’.

Another difference between ‘must’ and ‘have to’ in the sense of obligation can be found in the nature of the obligation. It is possible to say ‘I’m sorry. I can’t come to the meeting tomorrow because I have to go to the dentist at 3 o’clock’ but not ‘I can’t come to the meeting tomorrow because I must go the dentist at 3 o’clock’. On the other hand, if you have a raging toothache, you would probably say ‘I really must go to the dentist’, although ‘have to’ could replace ‘must’ in this sentence. A generalized distinction would be that ‘must’ refers to an internal need or obligation while ‘have to’ is used to refer to an external need or obligation. It is probably true to say, however, that ‘must’ can generally be replaced by ‘have to’ but ‘have to’ often cannot be replaced by ‘must’ so in terms of teaching, it is probably a good idea to teach ‘have to’ for obligation because it is nearly always correct whereas ‘must’ is often inappropriate. ‘Must’ and ‘must not’ are useful for official notices and instructions, e.g. ‘You must carry your passport at all times’ and ‘You must not smoke in the toilets’.