Effective communication: play on opponent's side

From time to time we faced with a really difficult person and such people can play the significant role in our career. It can be our chef, partner, sponsor or coworker. And we have to find way for the effective communication in this case. If we refuse to establish a good relationship with such people, we will risk to lose the great chance. But the way to the effective communication in this situation demands a penetration into opponent's world.
From time to time we are faced with a really difficult person and such a person can play a significant role in our career. She can be our chef, partner, sponsor or coworker. We have to find a way for effective communication. If we refuse to establish a good relationship with such people, we risk losing great opportunities. The way to effective communications in this situation demands a penetration into the opponent's world.
I'd like to stress that such persons don't recognize the rules and regularities of the common game (when we start a prolonged interaction with other people we establish uniform rules, which include viewpoints of us and the opponent). Accordingly we can't create the field, which be used for the solution of problems and improvement. As a rule difficult persons have strong beliefs and strict patterns of social interactions. We have no chance to pull their from familiar environment or push into our milieu. All that remains for us -to play on the opponent's field.
I'd like to stress that such people don't recognize the rules and regularities of the common game (when we start a prolonged interaction with other people we establish uniform rules which include common viewpoints). Unfortunately, we can't create the playing field which will be used for solving problems and improvement. As a rule difficult people have strong beliefs and strict patterns of social interactions. There is no chance for us to enter their everyday environment or for them to enter ours. All that remains is for us to play on the opponent's field.
Firstly, the main goal of our communication should become the essential part of opponent's world. We shouldn't provoke the interlocutor's resistance, although it quires great accuracy. In this instance you can make two serious mistakes: one is the excessive pressure, the other one is loss of your own goal. It's similar to a searching of the necessary radio frequency, when a signal isn't strong. You should be very careful and choose communicative tools intelligently. To my mind in this case it's the best of use right a pace and a tone of speech (it depends on the opponent's psychical type), a smile or a friendly look, open poses. Anyway you have to perceive feelings of your interlocutor and pick the most effective strategy. This is will result to relaxation and calm our opponent.
First, the main goal of our communication should be to become an essential part of our opponent's world. We shouldn't provoke the interlocutor's defenses and this will require great care. In this instance you can make two serious mistakes: the application of excessive pressure and losing sight of one's own goal. It is similar to searching for the proper radio frequency when a signal isn't strong. You should be very careful and choose communicative tools intelligently. In this case it's best to use an acceptable pace and tone of voice (it depends on the opponent's psychical type), a smile or friendly look and open poses. At any rate, you have to perceive your interlocutor's feelings and select the most effective strategy. The result is a calmer opponent.
The second part is more difficult for realization, because you should not only save trust of opponent, but try to implement own rules. These rules mustn't contrast with principles of interlocutor's world. You will achieve a maximum results, if this person perceive your rules as his own (he can think that he create these rules). It's important to remember, opponent mustn't see you as the enemy. So, you will play on the opponent's side, but you will use profitable rules for you. Eventually field or side doesn't matter, because exactly regularities (the content of the game) determine the outcome of the match.

The second part is more difficult to realize because you must maintain your opponent's trust while trying to implement your own rules. These rules mustn't contrast with the principles of the interlocutor's world. You will achieve maximum results if this person perceives your rules as his own (he can think he created these rules). It's important to remember, your opponent mustn't see you as the enemy. So, you will play on the opponent's side, but with rules potentially profitable to you. In the end the field or side doesn't matter because the plays of the game determine the outcome of the match.