day 8 listen skill This is my note from TED by Celeste Headlee. She shared 10 advices about how to be a good listener, and how to make an good conversation. I think I will benfit from her talk. Own to the technology, information is much easier to pass on, we could express ourselves or complete a discuss without face to face, but in my expierence, when I togather with several friends, and we have a pleasant conversation or spent a good time, the delight that I feel will last 3 days. And it's defenitly influenced my life. So, yes, I do think it's very importatn to know how to conversation. Here is the 10 tips she gave: 1. don't multitask,be present. 2.don't pontificate, assuming you will learn something not predicting. "true listening require a setting aside of oneself"""sensing that acceptance, the speaker will become less and less vulnerable,and more and more likely to open up inner ressesess of his or her mind to the listener."--Scott Peck 3.ues open-ended questions. 4.go with the flow. 6.If you don't know, say that you don't know.Talk should not be cheap. 7.don't equate your experience with theirs. 8.Try not to repeat yourself. 9.Stay out of weeds. 10.Be brief. "If your mouth is open, you are not learning."--Budda "Most of us don't listen with the intent to understand.we listen with the intend to reply."--Steven covey No 2 is the rules that really inspiring one. If you think you are the important one , your thinking is important than others, then a real conversation will never happen.