How not to loose yourself Hello, my dear friends! To be or not to be... yourself? That is the question people ask from time to time in their lives. I am not an exclusion. Who am I? What to wear? What will people say? Those questions are just options of the question above. From my point of view, everybody should chose whom to be, must have his/her own belief. But how to understand, whether this belief was produced by your own mind or inflicted by television, facebook friends of friends, teachers or schoolmates? Are you pretty sure, that the choice of the dish you've eaten for your breakfast (or even your refusal to eat every morning) wasn't imposed by your grandmother or newspaper article? I am not. I am a second child, 6 years yonger than my sister. In the childhood it is pretty normal to do what your parents asked you to do, to eat what your mother cooked for the family, to wear the clothes, in my case, of wich your sister grow out. But comparing! I was always compared with my sister and other children (and with my parents in my age). That is terrible. That kills self-expression. I have a filling that all my life I tried not to become a good successful and happy person, but to be somebody else. Even now, being 31 years old married woman with son, living apart from my and my husbands parents, I keep getting advises: wear dresses, straighten your hair, start working etc. I don't fill that I am an adult, always waiting somebody will come and solve my problems, cannot chose myself the next steps of my life. I try to be more independent. This is my life and I am a director :-) But is it really my opinion?