Decline the Pear out of Modesty In Donghan dynasty, country Lu, a boy name Kongrong was very smart, sensible and thoughtful. Kong had five elder brothers and one young brother, the seven brothers had a very good and harmonious relationship. One day, Kong’s mother bought a lots of pears and put them on one plate, Kong’s elder brothers let Kong and their youngest brother to pick up the pear first. Kong looked at the pears on the plate and found the pairs in various of sizes, he decided to pick up a smallest one instead of the best and the biggest one, and then he ate it. When kong’s father looked at Kong, he was very pleased and though: My son is only 4 years old, but he knows to give the others the best. Then he asked kong: “So many pears on the plate, why do you choose the smallest one?” Kong said: “I am a younger brother, I deserve the smallest pear, and my elder brothers deserve the big ones. His father was very confused:” your younger brother is younger than you? According to your theory, He should take the smallest one.” Kong said:” I am older than my younger brother, I am his elder brother, I should take care of him, so I save the bigger one for him”. His father was very pleased: "good boy, good boy, you are a wonderful boy, you will be something in the future." This is an ancient Chinese story was on the text book for every primary students to learn, almost every Chinese knows the story, and we have been tough that we must treat the others better then ourselves, even for the kids, we even can’t express our own needs instead of satisfying the others. I don’t think this is a good story for teaching our kids, I want every kids can bravely say what they want, and think it carefully if he decide to give up something that they really want. Persuading what you really want makes you happy, I don’t want our kids always want to be thoughtful or well behaved to give up their ability to be happy.