What Understand others? 2 But considering that the other is other does is not foster to not understand him because he/she is "other"? I would say yes. When you approach someone to understand him and considering him as "other", you will not understand him. "Other" could mean someone who have no value and even you will consider He/She as lower. Because you can not, according to Sartre, put yourself in their place by consider him as other. You will be too external from him. And this "external" position will bring me to judge him, and you will feeling shame, or hate. According to Rousseau, with an affective point of view, by being "external" you will create a rivalry. And your self-esteem will show exacerbated. May friendship and love relationship are insincere? I am sure that thoses relationships are sincere so How explain that love relationship and friendship are sincere? "Other" is understood as long as he wants and he can understand me. Capture the essence of crucial otherness can be done through his uniqueness, his face, which is delicate (easy to destroy). So understand others means to understand him and to to experience that he is other, analyze Lévinas. In love and friendship, you want the other to understand your entire personnality. And comprehension is a call for mutual comprehension. Kant develop that understand is not related to possessing each other, but establish an enlightening mutal relationship. Satre said " Dans l'expérience même de ma distance aux choses et à autrui, j'éprouve la présence sans distance d'autrui à moi" (literal translation : In the same experience of my distance to things and to others, I feel the presence of others without distance to me ") Finally, understand other is to assume a desire of mutual understanding and respectful.