The challenge
It's all a challenge . Every day ,every moment ,no matter where you are no matter what you're doing someone it's judging you and most of the times you might be doing the same . I might see someone who has a bad look ,dresses himself badly and/or doesn't take much care of his features .That's what you're judging that's what you can see and even if you think you aren't judging that person even if you think , or at least try to convince yourself that looks don't matter , your subconscious will automatically judge that person . But this is not just about looks ,it's about the judging process . The same thing could've happened the other way around ,you speak to someone and you realized his instruction is not really top level ,if anything it's lower than average and you immediately assign -1 points ,if he/she's good looking and you're not that -1 turns into -10 . Yet that's not all EVERYTHING can be judged ,the way you walk ,how good you are at a certain subject ,how good you are at a certain sport ...ANYTHING . Look around you , there's someone who's better than you at something and you're better than him at something else ,but that doesn't mean he's better than you or the opposite . Each of us as a path we choose ,we decide what we want to achieve and in which fields . The point is that this judging will always be there no matter how conscious the choice not to judge is so you could either accept it or try to get better in those areas you feel you're lacking . Let me know what you think in the comments below
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The challenge
It's all a challenge. Every day, every moment, no matter where you are, no matter what you're doing, someone is judging you and most of the times you might be doing the same. I might see someone who looks bad, dresses himself badly, and/or doesn't take much care of his features. You're judging what you can see, and even if you think you aren't judging that person even if you think or at least try to convince yourself that looks don't matter, your subconscious will automatically judge that person. But this is not just about looks, it's about the judging process. The same thing could've happened the other way around, you speak to someone and you realized his instruction is not really top level, if anything it's lower than average and you immediately assign -1 points, if he/she's good looking and you're not, that -1 turns into -10. Yet that's not all. EVERYTHING can be judged. The way you walk, how good you are at a certain subject, how good you are at a certain sport ...ANYTHING. Look around you, there's someone who's better than you at something and you're better than him at something else, but that doesn't mean he's better than you or the opposite. Each of us has a path we choose, we decide what we want to achieve and in which fields. The point is that this judging will always be there no matter how conscious the choice not to judge is, so you could either accept it or try to get better in those areas you feel you're lacking. Let me know what you think in the comments below.From a language standpoint, you're looking good and this was understandable. The one thing you have to watch out for is your comma and period placement--the commas and periods go immediately after the word before them, and the space comes after, as shown. It is very difficult to read with misplaced commas and periods. Other than that, good job, Alessandro.
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It is true that people judge others indiscriminately and purposely at times or more frequent. I find that how you are raised, the people and influences you are around will dictate how you grow and what you grow into. Much like a person who grows up around people who lie, cheat, steal are likely to do the same when they get older if not dwarfed by some positive influence, people, etc, they will inevitably turn out the same. What I have learned to be the best combatant for this attitude is simple said, but hard to do, like many things in life when trying to change a habit of many years. Minding oneself is key, making sure that you are living properly, and right. The way someone dresses, looks, what they drive is all superficial stuff that when it comes down to it means absolutely nothing. It doesn't define them does it? You can't judge a book by it's cover, yet in today's world things like sex, money, looks, prominence have the main seat at the table and media has many ways of making one want and crave it. Just a thought...
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I read something recently that you might find interesting. I will include a passage below.
The authors stated, "There is a difference between making a mindless judgment and a mindful judgment. A mindless judgment is so loaded with either positive or negative valuations that we are starstruck on the one hand and blinded on the other. Either way, our sight is clouded. A mindful judgment is one that evaluates and at the same time notices the very act of judging: we judge and at the same time we take a learning orientation toward the judgment. We examine the sources of our judgments. We examine the effects of the judgments on us, on our interactions, and on the goals we wish to accomplish. We discern whether our judgments encourage us to engage with difference creatively or whether they encourage us to shut down. We ultimately make decisions and take action with greater clarity as we break through the confines of our automatic, mindless evaluations."
If you are interested in reading further, the book is called Personal Leadership: Making a World of Difference by Barbara Schaetti, Sheila Ramsey and Gordon Watanabe.
Cheers,
mk9390
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