Thanks Judy for your words and maybe my question is as you said out of my cultural beliefs. Thanks also for your pieces of advice, I appreciate that ,though I am not in love and I just wanted to know your opinions, but I promise I will make use of your advice and put it to apply whenever I fall in love. Enjoyed your discussion :)

I think your question might come from your religious or cultural beliefs because you ask if it is a shameful deed. Depending on one's beliefs, I have to say that generally in the US, it would never be considered shameful or would you be disrespected for it; however, when you open up to a man who hasn't said this to you or shown you that he cares for you, you have to be careful. You could get your heart broken. Certainly a woman can say this in this country, but I personally would not because a lot of men lose interest in you or get scared if you tell them you love them without them showing some interest in you. If you "love" this man from afar, you might try to talk to him about something innocuous, like a sports game, or a movie. If you have already done this and he hasn't shown interest in you , I would never say that. You sound innocent and naive, so be careful , just try to be friendly and if he doesn't show any interest, leave it at that.

I respect and appreciate your point of view but the problem I wanted to talk about is how society, men and most people see the courageous woman who takes the first step and admits her love first. If she hided her feelings, she would suffer and pain in silence and if she didn't, society, people and maybe even the man she fell in love with disrespect her. I think it's a matter of mindset rather than shyness. I know it's an argumentative issue but I loved to express my poor humble opinion about it :) Thanks for your entry! I loved that.

I think this is not the matter of women only , men also have the same problem . And I think alot of love stories didn't born because of " shyness " . I think it will be ok if man or woman take the first step .