whiplash yesterday I watch a movie called "whiplash", which is great and impressive! but the whole storyline make me not entirely comfortable, actually I can't decide if Fletcher is a good teacher or just a bad ass. The question which I want to asked is :" How far is too far to push a person to become the greatest?" I think there are two kinds of believing in this world , one is "you will success if you work hard enough, and you have to keep working if you are not success" . and the other is " nothing is guaranteed, if you are not in the right direction ,more hard working , more damage done." this is one of the biggest confusion in my life, I don't know which one is the truth of the life. sometimes I thinks maybe first one is right, I need to punch myself harder. no pain no gain ,right ? and after somedays hard working ,I began self-doubting. It is obvious that you can't became a NBA player no matter how hard you work on yourself , isn't it? and then several days later, I begin accuse myself :" oh , you are so good at finding excuse! you lazy boy!" and this circulation keeps going on and on... this is really upset me, because I even don't know how to educate my daughters, when I encourage them doing something , I even can't convince myself. does it really worth it? what if this whole effort are just wasting of time? what if she is suppose to become a great painter while I insisted on keep practising piano just because she has already spent a year on it ? I'm still working on it ,hope someone can help me with this.