The 5 Love Languages Recently I read a book called ¨The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts¨, written by Gary Chapman. This book focus mainly on relationship and marriage, but I certainly think the 5 ways to express affection and love suggested by Chapman can be also applied to friends and other members of our family. According to Chapman, there are 5 actions people do to show their love. However, depends on the individual, some may be more significant and effective then others. Let me tell you first about those 5 love languages. 1.Words of affirmation: Language is one of the most powerful tools of human beings. So use it, express your gratitude and appreciation to the people you love when they do something for you, motivate them by saying encouraging words if they are going through a bad moment, be humble and kind. 2. Quality time: Spend time together, not just being physically in the same place but actually do something together or have a quality conversation. Pay your attention to this person. 3. Receiving gifts: Gifts can be very important for some people, not because of their material value but because the person receiving the present knows you are thinking about him/her while you are buying or making it. 4. Acts of service: Some people may feel loved when someone do certain small actions for them. If so, ask them what they would like you to do. Sometimes taking the dog for a walk when this person is busy it is even more meaningful then a 100-dollar gift.. 5.Physical touch: Physical touch can be sex, kiss, hug or just a simple hold of hand. Some people are shy of saying nice words but they like to touch the ones they love. Everyone feels good after a big hug, isn´t it? As I mentioned before, everyone has his primary love language, it is very important to know it and speak this person´s language correctly, otherwise he can still not feel your affection even you really care about him. For example, a wife may tries her best to keep the house clean and the dinner prepared everyday because she thinks this is the best way to tell her husband she loves him. However, what his husband really needs is some words of affirmation. Another example, more often than not, a child needs his dad or mom to show up instead of gifts or money. The parents do love him but they don´t know which is the primary language of their son. Love is not only about feeling but a choice we make. Discover people´s primary love language and learn to speak it.