Are you open minded?
When i meet a new person and we introduce ourself to each other i do a little test. This test shows me if my new friend is open minded or rigid.
I just say - My name is George. For 100% percent of people this name is too long to pronounce and, of course, they ask me how to call me a little bit shorter.
There are few very popular variations of my name - Gosha, /Zhora, Goga, Grisha, but i like none of them.
Some times ago i just created two names, which 1 - i like, 2 - have the letters, that my full name has. These names are - Gor, and Geo.
So i was telling my new friends these names and there are some difference between their reaction.
Some of them tells me - Ok and call me like i want. Others was trying to persuade me that classical variations of my name are much more better and from time to time called me like they want. And the third category of people wasn't listening to me at all and just called me the way, more comfortable for them.
What ideas i am taking with this test. It will be hard to dispute with the second category of people. For them it's hard to start thinking not in a usual way. With the third group of people any discussion is almost imposible - they are very rude thinking people.
Of course i can be wrong but my experience shows me that in most cases it's true.
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阿特, i agree that calling the name, exactly as i ask is tactful. I also think that it depends on the way of thinking. In Russia there are lot of usual names. Every third man is Sasha, Petia, Serezha. Every third woman is Katia, Ania, Natasha. And the question is - are you ready to use some unusual name that you never heard before?. Some people have this types of thoughts - he is just showing off with that strange name, he think that he is special, i'll call him in normal way. And it can be connected with his thoughts in other areas. Of course i don't make a generalization only with this one thing.
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No , you didn't offend me , I just told you what I thought. And I didn't judge you , I just told you my opinion. :-)
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In my view this test shows whether the other party is tactful and respectful rather than whether they are open-minded. If you prefer to be called George, it would simply be rude to call you otherwise. The only exception would be if a person's name is inexcusably long (Some Hawain and middle-Eastern names come into mind) and the other party asks you whether they can call you a shorter name for reasons of time efficiency (such as), which obviously does not apply to your case.
Can't say it's a bad test though, I don't expect you to like talking to rude people!
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Mary, i didn't want to offend you by that post, sorry.
And i think, that your answer is some kind of judging too :)
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First of all , all of us aren't in a suitable place for judging people. We should not prejudge people just by this simple test.Secondly , if we have to judge we should test people with lot other variety of test . we should let them to reaction more! Maybe they have an acceptable excuse for their reaction , who knows!?
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